my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5yrs. For the last year we have gotten extremely close. We are together everyday (besides work and other things). We only see our friends on the weekends, and we are together at that time too. We have gotten so close, we can finish eachothers sentances. Neither of us are unhappy with this, I just worry that my freinds will get tired of having to be around my boyfreind too. I would like to hangout with my freinds alone, but I would have more fun being with my boyfreind. ANy thoughts or advice?
Alexander McQueen
Start taking a class or pick up a new hobby without him, and schedule the occasional "girls' night out" or family gathering where no significant others are allowed.
1Start going to the gym or to a yoga class with your girlfriend, plan a big giant Girls Night Only event (slumber party, bar hopping, movie etc. Anything goes). Find something that WILL be more fun with just the girls! I plan a night once a month with a couple girlfriends of mine where we just sit and talk (ALOT) and drink wine etc. Someone brings the wine, someone makes dinner and someone brings a dessert. Very fun and ladies only but this way i dont have to be gone for waaaay too long and we do it during the week as to not miss other fun plans for the weekend!
Good luck!
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"
2I am in a very similar situation to you. My husband were together for just over three years before we got married in April. After we'd been together for about a year we were inseparable and I preferred to be with him over anyone else, and it has been like that ever since. I am now trying to do things independently. Basically because I sometimes find that my girlfriends don't have as much time for me anymore because I have done the same to them. It can actually feel quite lonely. I suggest you make an effort to spend time with your friends away from your bf before you segregate yourself from your friends. I am often torn between an opportunity I have to do something independently (with family, friends or by myself) and being with my husband. I have to make a real effort to be away from my husband. It's difficult cos' I love being with him and sharing his life with him, but when my friends have experiences that I miss out on because I'm so wrapped up in my relationship, it can make me feel sad or guilty. Sorry for the large post! It's a good feeling to nurture relationships outside of your own!
3It's normal to find someone and want to settle down and not want to go out with your friends as much. Key words being "as much". Friendships are still important, and it's really unhealthy to sacrifice all relationships in favor of one person. Plus, it has a way of majorly backfiring.
In any case, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Spend some time with your friends and then go jump your boyfriend because you missed him so much.
4How can you be sure it's more fun with your boyfriend there if you haven't hung out with your girlfriends without him for a long time? You're right- being clingy and close is one thing, but if your girlfriends never see you without your guy, it's another story. How can they open up to you and girl chat if your guy is there? There are probably loads of things they would like to tell you, but not your boyfriend.
I definitely agree with you that your friends will get tired of your boyfriend sticking around all the time. Especially if they are single or don't bring their boyfriends along. Log some girl time and let him hang out with his guys too- at the end of the night when you're finally together, you'll only have more fun because you've been missing each other all day. It's a win-win situation.
Protect your heart until you find someone who can do it better than you.
5You should consider starting with one day out of the month as a friends-only night. Where you all have an outing sans significant others and just enjoy the things about each other that made you friends to begin with. Ultimately you will never lose good friends because you spend all your time with your boyfriend, but you should make them realize that you still value your relationship with them. Significant others have no guarantees and you should make sure that you're friends are there to support you through tough times. You should also make sure to keep that desire to be with each other all the time alive by giving each other space one and awhile....co-dependency is not necessarily a good thing.
6I understand your position, but I assure you that this situation is very annoying for your friends. If they haven't said anything, or stopped inviting you to hang out as much, they're good friends, and you should appreciate that.
7Plus, this isn't good for your relationship with your boyfriend either. You can't even go out with your friends and have fun without the guy there! That's co-dependency, and it's never good. Eventually this will be a problem, and it gets harder to fix as time goes by.
You should do what everyone else said, just schedule some girl time, no bf or husbands allowed. Go out with them, gather at someone's place like Fallen85 suggested... Just be there and have a good time, show your friends you like their company and they're an important part of your life.
I think its great that you love being with each other I think thats a good sign, I never get tired of hanging out with my bf. But I think that it is healthy to mix it up sometimes... I find it important to have friends time too
8I can definitely tell you that you need to spend time with your friends even if it is only every other week or so. I can tell you from experience that your friends are probably very annoyed right now.
9When you do hang out with them, though, don't just hang out with them because your boyfriend is busy. Hang out with them even if you could be hanging out with your boyfriend. It will make them feel like they are important to you, not just backups for when your boyfriend is busy. Even good friends will end up slowly becoming less and less close to you because they don't feel important to you, so why should you be important to them. I have seen many girls loose their friends over this situation, and when/if they break up with their boyfriends they don't really have any shoulders to cry on. My best advice to you is just make sure you have time to spend with your friends without your boyfriend always being there. Even if it may seem like you have more fun with your boyfriend, you haven't really given your friends a chance to show you how fun they really can be when your boyfriend isn't there.
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