I am a guy seeking ur advice... hope you wont mind a guy posting in ur women's community..
Well me from India where feelings are given second priority over society.. Religion, cast etc are too much prevalent here.. Love marriages are not looked with good eye n when you don't share same religion it's nightmare.. You can find a perfect hypocrite society here.. Girls are emotionally tortured n forced to marry their parent choice n love marriages are far from thought.. Unfortunately we both are from different religion, different cast, i am 2 years younger to her (i am 22 as of now) n i am one of the victim of recession coz of which i am waiting for joining my job from last 6 months..
My story starts when we both met 2 years back over chat n with time came close to each other, she always told me she is not allowed to fall in love n wont be able to complete it.. but we couldn't resist our growing feelings for each other n finally we fell in love..
"LOVE" so great feeling, life feels so like heaven. All was going so wonderful, so perfect, till.. her parents found a match for her n world came crashing down,we both were in big trauma n was not able to find any way as we knew anyhow even if she tell them about me, it would be a big no for me; from her parents side coz above all i don't even have job as of now....
Unable to find any way, I told her to go for court marriage before her parents could part us for ever..But to my surprise she said "NO".. How could she??? n she added.. it will bring a shame for our families.. n fair enough i have a sister younger to me n this defame may create problem in her marriage (i told u about our hypocrite society).
But still i tried to compel her as fear of loosing her was killing me n she replied.. She cant be happy by making her parents sad, she cant live without them, she cant see anyone saying anything to her parents coz of our relation. n above all she loved them..
What about me? Don't you love me? Will you be able to live without me?? i said, n she replied I don't know.. n started crying.. i was feeling mess.. i tried making her feel better but to no use, i couldn't control my emotions either..
To our relief her parents rejected that guy.. n reason was he was getting less pay (n as of now i don even have a job which adds to our misery..) but nothing was over, just got postponed till her parents find other match..
And few days back when i called her; i could feel her low, i asked what was wrong? she said nothing and when i forced her to tell, she replied "No one will ever accept our love" and starting crying,"No one will ever let us meet; we should forget each other",I was left dumbstruck; unable to believe what she said; as if i was not able to breath; a tear rolled out of my eye. Somewhere i knew it was almost impossible for us to meet but listening her saying that almost broke me, Why cant she understand i cant live without her, she is my everything, i know she also loves me so much, needs me, so how can she even think that? We will be living corpse without each other, i know she cant except anyone in her life other than me. Then why she want to make so big sacrifice? Why she want to make her life hell? Why cant she be little selfish for herself? She has no right to spoil her life like this, Why? Even I need her, don't want her to go..
Unable to speak much I asked her, "Will you be able to live without me?" she said "NO" and we broke out crying..
Four things that mess up my life ->
1. I am victim of recession so waiting for joining my job and its no use trying for job as either no jobs are available for freshers or pay is very less so need to wait for 6 months at-least to get my joining (Me placed in MNC).
2. We have different religion and even if her parents agreed someday which is next to impossible, her relatives will never let us marry.
3. Her parents are trying to marry her as soon as possible, she even tried to procrastinate her marriage by going for higher studies but her parents said big NO and added its her age to marry.
4. She not ready to go for court marriage as it will bring lot of defame for her parents and she feels she wont be happy ever making her parents sad.
No one have any right to separate two souls who are so much in love with each other.. but........ misery continues...
Now What should i do??? I am unable to find its answer. Can anyone help me here? 
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(Don't worry about being a man here, I'm one too).
I'm sorry to say, but I don't think their is any easy answer for this considering where you are. You already have 3 things stacked against you. 1. Caste, 2. Religion, 3. Family choice. You could possibly get around caste maybe if you were able to find a job that puts you up there. But you still have the religion issue, as I'm not sure which ones but it doesn't matter because their not the same. We have the same issues in the USA, but the only difference is we're more spoiled here and do whatever we want without too much consequence. Try to understand her position is a bit more serious than her. Being a woman he has much more pressure on her to be obedient. I don't know if she would be in danger but that's a great possibility. She may choose to "spoil" her life because it's the only possible option she would be faced with. I wish I could give a good solution, to this, but unless your families were willing to be more accepting of the situation, there probably would be no way around this. The only options I see is, defy your families, which would end in shame, and possible danger (again I'm not sure what goes on there at this point and at what lengths people would go to protect honor). The other option would be to run away together, which would end in the same result. Considering finances is a real issue, this may not be an option. The more realistic options would be for both of you to wait it out, but this would not be likely. Unfortunately, the only option may be for both of you to try your hardest to move on. I'm sorry.
1Your story reminds me exactly of Romeo and Juliet- have you read this play or seen the movie? You sound like a true romantic at heart, and your story is very sweet. But I have to ask- have you ever actually met her in real life aside from just talking on the computer? Because if you have not, it is very, very difficult for me to believe that you really love her. I don't understand how it is possible to love someone if you have never met them. But that is just my opinion. Onto the other issues you mentioned, I think that if you had a decent job this situation may be a lot easier, as her and her parents would know that you would be able to provide for her and any future children financially. I don't know her parents, but I think that if you had a good job, it might be easier to overlook other issues such as different religions. It makes me really sad to hear that her parents don't seem to care very much if at all if she even likes the man they want her to marry or is even ready for marriage. I thought that perhaps the Indian culture had evolved a bit to at least take the women's feelings into consideration. In terms of work, have you thought outside the box in any ways? What about opening up a website? I have heard this can be very lucrative. Have you considered moving elsewhere where jobs in your field may be easier to get? Is there any way you can complete your degree faster? If your lack of a job seems to be the biggest problem right now, I think you should work on that issue first. Now, if you do get a good job, will the odds of her wanting to marry you increase? I think you should ask her this. Does she think her parents will be easier to convince if your financial situation was better? I hope that things change for you, but I am not sure what I could say that may help. I think that these things have a way of working out if they are really meant to be. If you 2 are meant to be together, then you will be. If not, realize that there are many other women out there that you could love and be compatible with.
2Good luck to you.
@Janine22
we have met lot of times in real life and are very much in love... we are havin long distance relationship, she resides around 2 hrs distance from my place, and we meet whenever its possible, Ya I havin decent job may improve our condition but problem is no job available for fresher due to recession, And s i told before i have job in hand in very good company so i have to wait for that only and it may take 6 months to join... So life in mess.........
3hey hi i know ur problem is quite big but it can be solved in a way give them such a proposal them before even rejecting they have to think hard like if u get such a job that can pay u more n that too very handsome amt then things can change n it can favour u but for that ur lady love have to support u in a way that she have to make her parents understand or wait for the time u get a good job n for that u seriously have to make potential efforts n i believe "don't fail before trying".
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