I am everyone's sounding board. they all dump on me. i hear it all. relationship drama, financial woes,job loss, family issues, health problems, school problems, then i have to deal with my own. but where are they all when i need them? Instead of support and advice i get the unanswered phone calls, I-will-call-you-when-you-feel-better, lets-not-talk-about-you-right-now, how about-we-discuss-the-news-today, or more importantly why don't you just cheer up so you can hear my problems , quit your whining! i feel alone i must admit, especially when its the most important persons in your world who do this. am i just dumb and stupid? when will i learn that the world is all for self? when will i wake up and smell the coffee? when will i learn? when will i learn to depend on me. but what about those days when i am crying to be heard and tears roll down my cheeks when no one is looking, i hurt too and need a listening ear as well. i do know what alone feels like.
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As soon as you finish the pity party you've thrown for yourself, things will get better.
1luisa... ouch!
I can't really judge b/c I don't know you or your friends but in general you need to ask for what you want and be willing to walk away if you don't get it. There are people out there who will care about how you are doing.
However if you are often mopey and feeling sorry for yourself no one is going to want to hear it. I can't really tell if you are like that normally just from this post.
2It sounds like you are involved with some emotionally selfish people here. Your friends have to be able to give as well as take. People that truly care and listen are the ones that you should maintain friendships with. Perhaps you are just too giving of a person and people who are 'takers' see that about you and as a result, are attracted to you. You need to find more friends like yourself. Also, be honest with your friends. Tell them that you really needed someone to talk to on Monday night and were disappointed that they were not there for you. The way that they respond to this and in the future will determine how much they care for you. Don't be afraid to end friendships with takers, because they probably aren't really worth your time anyways. Their are good people out there, you just need to have some experience to figure out who they are. Good luck to you.
3stop being everyone's doormat. what luisa said is harsh but its true. people will only get away with what you let them get away with. stand up for yourself and cut the users out of your life. until then you really can't blame anyone but yourself.
4If you enjoy listening to their problems and giving them advice then continue doing that. If you need advice and need to just b!tch for a while.. come here. Thats what I do!
PS: are you a libra?
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"
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