Alright. So my mother decides to take the family out for a shopping trip in an outlet mall. I am with my little sister, mom, and my grandparents.
Now we are all having lunch in the food court. I am told to go get four ice creams - preferably the ones with the hot brownie covered with a scoop of vanilla ice cream. I go to the nearest ice cream parlor, and ask for four of their brownie sundaes. Apparently they have only two brownies, so I ordered to of the brownie sundaes and two cups of vanilla ice cream. Bringing it back to the table - I expected a smile from my mother - but no, a scowl was there. And ofcourse my grandparents freaked out about how big the ice cream was - which was expected... but still. Anyhow - my mum then began to yell at me and call me really bad names in public.
Her statements were justified because apparently "I purposely like to cause trouble - want to bring garbage for everyone - make life difficult - purposely brought gigantic ice cream - purposely brought disgusting brownie fudge ice cream" She then yelled at me for not bringing extra cups - see I was not going to be eating any.
Alrite so what did I do wrong. Did I deserve all that namecalling? It wasn't my fault they ran out of brownies or their ice creams were gigantic - it wasn't my fault that it didn't taste to your tastebuds pleasure. I seriously cant count how many times my mother has ordered out for my grandparents food that they end up not eating or finishing - and yet she made a drama out of this ice cream fiasco.
Honestly - am I in the wrong?
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No, you are not in the wrong.
1i dont think you are wrong either.. your mom was probably just having a bad day..you should try talking to her about it, and see what was going wrong
2No way, you did nothing wrong. I feel for you, your mother should have gotten the damn ice cream herself. I would try to talk to mum about it. Good Luck
3I'm with the others. You definitely did not do anything wrong and what she did was abusive, uncalled for,and hurtful to say the least. As a mother of a daughter myself, to hear something like this really upsets me and my heart goes out to you.I have always vehemently despised when parents belittled their children, especially in public.Next time maybe she should just do it herself.
4maybe your mom is going through menopause...
5First of all
Secondly, like the others said you did nothing wrong. Does your mom do this a lot or
was this a one time deal? If this isn't how she normally acts I would tell her that her words were very hurtful and that you didn't appreciate being abused in public. Hopefully she will see
how wrong she was and she will apologize.
If this is frequent, you need to have a more in depth heart to heart with her. She may not listen to what you have to say, but at least you can start to address the issue. If her toxic behavior doesn't stop you will have to figure out a way to overcome this for you and your sister.
And third, how could your grandparents just sit there and not say anything in your defense? I cannot believe they would be so heartless.
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6I'm sorry about your bad experience. I've been 'responsible' for things that weren't my fault and it really hurts- especially the name calling in public. try not to take it personally (i know its hard)
7omg, HUGS! that's so ridiculous...i'm sorry but that's really crappy of your mother. yelling at you for getting something she requested??? i feel so bad for you and i hope you know that that's not something a mother should do to her daughter. please have a talk with her and let her know that it really hurt your feelings that she did that. i hope it was a one-time thing and not a frequent occurrence.
8I agree you're not in the wrong, If someone wants something done right the first time, or up to their expectations they should seriously consider doing it theirselves. Instead of sending your child,expecting the worse then making them feel unappreciated, especially in public or even in front other family members. I agree with Nicachica, hopefully this was a one time thing,and she just had too much on her plate that day.
9You didn't do anything wrong. I don't think it was right for your mom to call you those names in public. Did you explain to her that that she requested that ice cream for everyone and you were trying to get something that everyone would like? It wasn't like you went and got garlic ice cream or anything just to get her upset. You did what you were told to do.
Here is my advice, you need to tell your mom what she did that day was inappropriate. I know she is your mom, but she doesn’t need to treat you that way, especially in public. Tell her how hurt you were to have her yell at you when you were just trying to help.
Next time she asks you to go get ice cream or another food item ask her to go with you instead. This way she can make her own food choices. If she doesn’t want go and they don’t have what they have exactly, come back and tell her. Don’t buy anything. Give her an option “They only have two brownies left to make a sundae, do you want chocolate ice cream instead?” If all else fails, ask your sister to come ‘give you a hand.” This way your sister can back you up and say “No mom, she is right, they only had two brownies left.”
Hang in there sweetie.
10Is this common? If it is, you should have a pretty good idea that it's not really you... It's rough when people go ballistic for no apparent reason.
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