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Should I move on or sit tight?

Posted By Anonymous on Jan 14, 2013 at 3:14PM

I have been dating this guy for a few months now, before than we were good friends. We met at the workplace and yes I am currently looking for other employment (due to a new scheduling conflict with school). We decided to date and things were going well. He always initiated the calls, text messages and invited me out.

I know he has a lot on his plate, with his job, his son, his overbearing parents. I am a patient person and I am a firm believer that respecting someone's life is essential. Things were starting to steam up with us and he told me that he didn't want the sex to change anything because I am special to him and that he wanted to put his best foot forward.

We had sex and things were fine afterward. A few days later he cancelled our day date for the weekend; said he had a lot of things to take care of. I understood and left it alone. On Friday of that night we started exchanging some flirty text and the next thing you know; he invites me out for dinner.

We had dinner and the entire time he tells me he can't believe that I convince him but that he is happy I did. He asks me to spend the night and we have sex for the second time. The sex is great and he invites me to breakfast in the morning. Everything seemed great. We laughed. Had a good time.

I don't really hear too much from him over the weekend; just a few updates and asking how I am doing. On Monday I see him and waive hello and then he proceeds to avoid me like the plague. He sends me a message later on letting me know that he is overwhelmed with what happened on Friday night and Saturday morning and just feels out of sort. I then asked him if he needs some space , in which he reply "I don't know. I guess". So I let him know that I respect what he is feeling and to take all the space and time he needs to figure things out. That when he is ready to talk, we can and that it's not a problem. He said thank you and I said you're welcome and we haven't spoken since.

I know sometimes guys say things so they can let down a woman gently. I'm wondering if this is a clear sign that I should move on or sit tight.

Thanks for the comments!