I'd love to hear the answer to this question as well...hope someone has some ideas for us

What happens if you let him do his thing right away, then give him some downtime to recover? I bet he'll last way longer on the second time around. If he's a younger guy this will probably happen less often as he gets older, too.

In my opinions, women have a higher threshold for sex because frankly they need to last longer for the baby process, guys just get off faster to shoot the roses in her belly, and the deed is done. Anyway. Some people may think you need to see the doctor, but there's lots of issues that could affect this, such as stress especially. Anyway, he just needs to work at his control and technique. There's a Zen exercise even about controlling the muscle that lets out your urine. He just needs to work on that a bit, on control. When you have sex, and he feels he's about to reach that point, he should simply stop and focus on other things, maybe caress your chest, a bit of kissing, lift your left, basically do a lot of handwork. Then when the feeling of finishing subsides, continue, and keep working on that, it may be kind of irritating for you at first, but just try to bear with it, his handwork should somewhat make up for it a bit. Hopefully once he gets in the control practice for awhile, it could help last longer. I've gone a whole hour once with this. And the 2nd time around is even better , She's done twice and I'm still working her. I dunno if it'll work out the same way for him, but he could try!

I know he is almost 30 so you would think he could manage it. But I have read a bit and heard that it might be genetic. So how much can you change nature? Sometimes he doesn't last until we even get to the bed..so the exercise might help. Any more thoughts? How could I tell him about trying these things without totally killing his ego? Its such a sensitive subject..

If he's 30, it's time to see a doctor.

Well, the other posters have suggested good ideas. Try a rest before the 2nd one, your problem happened with me and my highschool bf. Or you can always ask him to wear double the condoms, and if he's 30 and still can't control his speed...he probably has to consult with a doctor.

there is a place you can press with a finger to stall his orgasm. basically its like pinching a water hose to stop the flow, well there is a place under the scrotum when pressed just blocks it from coming out. it also will double his pleasure! so be the dom and tell him YOU will let him know when its time and you control the situation, as all women should!

(If he's totally inexperienced, like a super virgin now having sex, it's understandable for it to just happen fast), but from what you tell me, that's just a bit...out of the ordinary for a guy to just ejaculate without even doing anything. Going to the doctor won't hurt either, even if there really is nothing wrong. I'm sure the doc may have some good sex tips (after all, it's part of the curricula I'm sure). But yeh, that's just eh...check it out. Even younger than 30, that's a bit odd.

Ok, here I go again. I swear to god, I need to post this as a blog I have written it so many times! First of all, tell him to masturbate and come before you guys have sex (guys call it 'knocking the top off' I know, gross!) or help him with your hand and some lube. Second of all, but some condoms with numbing cream inside them. You can also buy numbing cream at sex shops and he can put it inside the condom before you have sex. (Make sure you don't get any on your nether regions). Don't give him any foreplay at all since the probem is so bad. Make him focus only on you. After you have orgasmed a couple of times, then have sex with you on top or side by side. This prevents him from moving or thrusting too much. Rub your clit while you are having sex (if this turns him on too much, then do it when you are in a position where he can't see you, such as reverse cowgirl). Next, communicate with him! Tell him that this is a problem for you and you miss having intercourse. Tell him to tell you when he is getting close to coming. Then stop having sex right away when he says this. Squeeze the tip of his penis and/or pull his testicles away from him body to prevent him from coming (balls raise close to the body before a man comes). Let him calm down for awhile, and then do this again. Change positions often, because the different sensations will prevent him from coming. Buy a vibrater for yourself (the rabbit is a good one because it has a clit stimulater and different settings, also anything shaped like a banana is good because it will rub your g spot). If he comes too fast, use the vibrater on yourself until you come. This will probably get him excited and ready to go again. If not, at least you will not be left unsatisfied. He probably knows this is a problem, but you 2 do have to talk about it. You can't ignore the problem and hope it will go away or expect that you have to do all of the work on solving it. This has to be a joint effort! He needs to know that you want to have sex and that there are things he can do to help solve the problem. The other thing that he can do is to slow things down when he masturbates. The reason he is like this probably has to do with the fact that he masturbates and comes too quickly, and his body is used to that. Tell him to masturbate only when he has extra time. Then, what he can do is masturbate until he is somewhat close to coming, and then stop. Then continue until he is close, and then stop. Do this a few times, and increase the time before he comes slowly. This is conditioning his body to wait longer and will make him last longer during sex. If all of this fails and he is not willing to try, then I would get him to go to a doctor or have you 2 go to a sex therapist together. You deserve to be sexually satisfied in this relationship too. Also, you cannot be the one doing all of the work for HIS problem. You guys need to talk about this together and work on this together. There are many books out there that you can buy on this subject as well. Good luck, I hope my advice helps and if he is unwilling to try to creatively deal with his problem, you may want to consider a different partner, because you deserve to be sexually satisfied too.

Tell him to to some Kegels exercises, it works very well, once he's used to it, he can better control when he finishes. Men can have multiple orgasms too , it's just about control.