First of all, I agree that him being late for 2 hours was maddening. BUT. Did he call you to let you know that he'll be late for 2 hours? Because that's the least he could've done so you can try to take a cab or a bus or even...walk if you wanted to.
I'd hate it when people don't let me know and left me hanging around for hours without letting me know because I might have thought that something bad happened! If he didn't let you know, your getting mad at him and confronting him is totally validated.

Unfortunately, people say things they shouldn't say in an argument. If that's the worst thing your bf said to you in the heat of anger, you're pretty lucky (not that you shouldn't have a discussion about it later on after things calmed down).
I've been called names before by my exes (b!tch or C U Next Thursday) and been accused of stupid totally unnecessary things. Of course, there should be a line to draw at how mean a person can get during an argument, but also when we're really mad, we say things that sometimes we regret.

Interesting that you didn't bring it up how much his statements angers you and you left it stewing and continuing on with him for a few more months..WHY? Why can't you discuss soon after that so that he might apologize for saying those things to you instead of stewing on it? Obviously it bugged you enough that you openly (in front of his friend) said 'no' if he asked to marry you.

If you don't want to marry your bf based on that argument, I'd say, it's your choice, but if you guys want to stay around and perhaps get married eventually, you have to forgive his mistakes and move on from it. If you can't, maybe it's not meant to be (the relationship) and you can go and find a guy who completely fits your standard.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

You acted completely out of line. Instead of your back-handed remarks, you should have said something like "I was really disappointed you were gone so long today. I'd been looking forward to seeing you".

I don't think your boyfriend should marry you. You sound insecure, immature and jealous.

People say things when they're emotional. It doesn't always mean that's how they feel. They just pull whatever they can out of the hat to do damage to that person. You were really insecure in that case. Whenever I go to fix someone's computer or whatever else, it usually sometimes takes me more than an hour. In the case of my ex, whenever I went over her place to fix stuff, it took me a couple of hours (more than two in the least). Doesn't mean anything happened between us. All I did was technical work, then left. It sounds like you didn't trust him even before that. If you can't trust him, it won't work out that great.

Its funny how people can just shoot off judgements on here..... although probably not verbatim I would have said something snippy too if my boyfriend were late because of helping another chick.

Mind you i wouldn't let it stew for months but.. i'm no stepford wife

Yeah, to still be mad after four months is weird! If it really bothered you that much, then you should have confronted him about it in a much more private setting! He was just angry with you when he said that!

I think that annoyance in response to him being late was fine. But the tirade you went on after was a bit much! He spoke out of frustration, and I frankly don't blame him.

But you know, you say you don't trust him. And trust is probably the most important thing in any relationship - romantic or otherwise. So if your gut says no, then let him go.

I would have said the same thing to my bf if he was 2 hours late to pick me up. I would have said it out of frustration and anger because I had just been waiting for 2 f-ing hours to be picked up. Either my bf would have simply apologized because he knew that he had messed up or he would have reacted the same way by saying something hurtful. It was the heat of the moment so don't dwell on the past! Sit down and have a talk about how you feel for each other in the present, as in RIGHT NOW, and what you see for yourselves in the FUTURE.

Did he call you at least to tell you he's running late or would be? I know some might not agree, but it's probably better/safer to at least update your SO on your status if you're making a commitment to them (like going to dinner, picking them up, hangout)...it's common courtesy to do it with anyone but especially with SO, at least to avoid situations like this one. (And hopefully you're not checking in to avoid suspicion while actually cheating.)

I agree with others that the whole arguement was due to mutual frustration and both of you said things that were hurtful that you probably shouldn't have said. I also agree that it's weird that you're still worked up about it months later. Even more weird that you haven't talked about it with him. Seems like there might be some other relationship issues and that this is just one symptom.

If you're not happy with him, leave him. It sounds like you like the idea of getting married, but are less-than-thrilled with the potential groom. Keep in mind that after the wedding, there will be years and years of togetherness that doesn't involve fancy cakes and pretty dresses. If you feel like he really does put other girls before you, that won't change after you are his wife. And if you have nasty fights and grudges like this now, expect that to only get worse later on down the road when you have real problems, like money and kids.

Another thing... did the friend really take your remark as a joke, or have you just trash-talked your relationship to his friends? Oh, the rumors that could come forth... He'll have a hard time getting them on board if they think your comment wasn't made in jest. Good luck with this one!

i would suspect that you are uncomfortable with the idea of marrying him in general and that there are probably other things he has done that make you doubt whether you would want to marry him. If you don't trust him, perhaps it is because of an instinct that he is in fact untrustworthy.