Hello everyone looking for some help, I have been with a man for 4 yrs things got bad between us and i broke up with him we weere apart for a few months and got back toghter. I am no angel I have hurt him as much as he has hurt me.That was why i broke up didn't think it was right to hurt each other every day with words or how we treated each other. We talked and got back toghter,but the old hurts jumped right back in. We started fighting basically every day.He has told me that nothing i do is enough then calls me names and that was why i ended it before.He fights with me about going out to clubs and i think it is crap becuase he fights with me about going to get milk. I have told him this isn't right he wants to be able to go out with friends and it not be a problem well i want to be able to get milk then he tells me i am controlling he is on facebook but we have been fighting over the fact that I am not a facebook friend but he says he has nothing to hide.Am I just being a jerk he says i am he wants to share in all my life but i feel he only lets me know what he wants me to know then tells me that i am the one hiding stuff I have been only going to work or the store not even visiting my childern coming home to be with him. Last week he lied and went out then didn't answer his phone so i got mad.So i did the same this week except i txt him and told him i was going to have a drink with my Dad and that was what i did i missed his call then txt him back. I lost my son becuase of how much time I have given my relationship and my ex now has my son. So for me to hear that i never do anything for this relationship is more then i can take without losing my mind.Nothing i have every done was good enough not gifts,time,careing,putting him first, he know says that he isn't going to do anything more for this relationship if i want him i will show it. I really don't know what else to do he is angry about not answering the phone well that is what he did to me and now he doesn't like it hmmmm. I can't really put more into this when what i am getting back i don't want. I feel beat down and lost so much hurt I love him but I need to love myself and kids as well.He wants to know everything about my life but he can't even except a friends request on facebook and not call me names every day. He wonders now why i seem cold to him. Not sure if i should try to fix any of this or just move on. I can't fix it alone i tryed telling him that he just says if i want him i will he has done enough for this relationship it is all up to me now. With that said how can i really fix anything it takes 2 last time i looked. I hope someone can help me my head is spinning and i am confused I already asked him about us getting outside help to work stuff out he said he would be willing but that wouldn't be till later down the road. Thank you all