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Loss of libido... any idea how to get it back?

Posted By Anonymous on Jan 13, 2013 at 5:00PM

I think a lot of women have had this issue at one point or another, but what do you do when you've completely lost your libido?

I've been in a relationship for 5 years. I'm very happy with my partner. I'm attracted to him physically and emotionally. But I just don't have it in me anymore! Sex feels like a chore to me now when I used to love it! It's really great when we manage to get into it, but it's always so hard to start and he always has to initiate because i never feel like it :( I feel so bad because he thinks it's his fault, and it's not. Maybe TMI, but honestly, I don't even want to touch myself anymore...

My drive started to drop when I started taking Ortho Tri-Cyclen lo (when i was 18) and 2 months ago I started taking Aviane (I'm 24 now) do you think birth control has anything to do with it? I've only been on Aviane for such a short time. There's been some spotting (again TMI sorry) and that DEFINITELY doesn't make me feel sexy, but I'm told that's normal and will stop eventually...

We lived together for most of our relationship, but myy boyfriend currently lives in another city (only an hour away) while he takes a 12 month course and would consider it Semi LDR because I can only see him every other weekend due to schedule conflicts (we've been doing this for 6 months so far). Because I dont see him often I WANT to want him. I miss him terribly when we're apart and countdown the days till I can see him, so why don't I want sex or even to pleasure myself when he's not home with me? Please help :(