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I'm thinking of disappearing on him!

Posted By Anonymous on Nov 15, 2012 at 3:42PM

I was with this guy for over six years. There were many points in the relationship when he was unsure if he didn't want to be with me or if he wanted just a casual fling. It took me a lot of courage to set boundaries and stand up for what I wanted in a relationship. I grew up in an abusive household and therapy is what brought me to this point.

He has come to the whole "I don't want you anymore" point again and this time, I have had it. I want to be with a man who wants to be with me and doesn't have hang up about things. I told him this and he said that I do deserve better and has been pursing me for sex ever since.

He calls and texts and shows up unannounced to my apt door to pursue this sexual relationship. I don't want it and he just isn't giving up. I have tried to tell him why but it's as if he doesn't listen to me. He just doesn't want to listen to what I want or what I need out of a relationship. He just wants to have me as this sex buddy and that's all.

I have been contemplating on disappearing on him. Blocking him from my phone, e-mail, facebook, everything. I'm scared because I have never done this type of thing before but I know the more I talk, the more he doesn't listen and it just seems like a whole waste of time.

So do I just disappear or do I give him a Dear John letter and then disappear. I don't know what to do!