how does one hack into anothers e-mail??
anyways, I think that this guy finds you too controlling and wants to be free of your controlling ways (freaking out of he spends time with girl as well as guy friends, for one.) And it sounds like he's really into you but your ruining it by being so insecure, and then controlling.
You could lose this one forever, being controlling-playing break-up games and actually wanting him to chase you- hacking into his email! If you want to keep this guy, loosen the reigns on him a bit and make him want to come back to you.

I'm kind of confused myself....you said that he's stopped answering your calls and texts, but then you said that he told you loves and that you're worth everything to him and he wants you back? So, I'm not exactly sure where you stand with him now....however, I can provide some feedback based on some assumptions.

You both seem very young...probably too young to be involved in an exclusive, predominantly co-habitational relationship. Yes, he moved to your town to go to school and moved in with you, but that doesn't mean that you're married....and it kind of seems like you expect a marital level of commitment from him. Seriously, would you and he be living together if he hadn't decided to go to school in your town? Isn't it possible that the co-habitational part of your relationship is really more about circumstance (going to school and needing a place to stay) than about making a fairly permanent commitment to each other? I'm not saying your feelings for him aren't real, but if school wasn't a factor, would you be living together?

I do think it's unreasonable of you to expect him to sit home every night while you're apart for three months and pine for you. How would you feel if that's what he demanded of you? He has returned to the town he grew up in...why wouldn't he want to take the opportunity to catch up with his friends. That's what college kids do on summer break. And remember, that's what he is - a college kid, not a husband.

I think that you've made some unreasonable demands of him that are based on the idea of a greater commitment than you two have, and I think he's let you know that he's not okay with your expectations. It also seems like you're a bit dramatic, hon. Just try to understand that relationships come and go throughout college - this is very likely not the guy you'll marry. (And if now he wants to get back together because school's starting again and he needs a place to stay....that's no reason to get back together with him.) Good luck.

You're controlling. He probably cheated. Repeat after me: This relationship is OVER.

Move on.

You dont know the whole story and our past situations...sounds like you got a couple problems yourself with that attitude...im sorry

I don't need to know the whole story. It's obvious to anyone reading this that the relationship was unhealthy and it's good that it's over.

As a side note, it's not good to be the type of person who thinks something is wrong with someone if they disagree with you. I mean, if you don't like what I say, fine, but then to add insult to it? That just smells like someone who is desperate. You wish the problems were with me because then you could continue to delude yourself into thinking that this guy wants you back.

You came here for advice. Don't be pissy just because we're not your friends telling you what you want to hear.

If you're going to seek advice, don't project your own issues.
He's not chasing you around because he's a single man, he's done with you! You broke up with him, remember? It obvious it was a revenge tactic that didn't work for you. He's single and able to be with any other girl he wants that wont expect him to sit around at home to make her feel better.

Sorry, OP, you blew it...he called your bluff. He's done, and you need to move on.

I agree with pop.

You were controlling, he didn't like it at all, so he lied to you to be able to have some fun with his friends.
Then you break up with him, he realized he likes not being with you anymore b/c you were so controlling. You call him thousands of times a day, he answers some of the time, and tells you what you want to hear so that you will leave him alone: "he says he loves me and wants me back and that im worth everything". Then he does not put those words into action b/c they are lies just to get you to leave him alone.

He's done with you, keep what's left of your dignity and leave him alone. Learn how to be secure and confident before you get into another relationship and run into the same problems.

Sorry, but it seems that you've made a very very unreasonable demand. And I agree with pop, it doesn't seem like a healthy relationship at all. And if you've not told the 'history,' hey, tell all. But again, from what you've posted, clearly it didn't seem like a healthy relationship.

You can't force him to stay home with you all the time and not hang out with any friends (and esp. when they/the male friends happen to have some female friends around--you can't control who they're bringing or hanging out with).

You need to do some introspection, what's causing you to feel this insecure and controlling. You need to work on yourself, because there's no way you can, in the future, make any other bfs to have no friends at all or avoid any interaction that may involve females. Like it or not, sometimes we interact with opposite sex. You may want it to be that way (ex: you're avoiding any interaction with any males) but it doesn't mean that he has to do that.

Learn from your mistake before you run into the same problem the next relationship you have.

Ok what? He is not allowed to hang around with any girls other than you? He is not allowed to hang out with his friends if there are any girls there??? You sound like a major control freak, and no, you do not have the right to tell him who his friends are and who he is allowed to spend time with. You are not his mother and he is not your child. I can understand why he lied to you and I can also understand why he does not want to be with you. I hope that you realize that these are the reasons why it didn't work out and think a lot about it before you enter into another relationship. Unless you have any logical reason to believe that he cheated on you (which is does not sound like you do), then you have no reason to no longer trust him. NO guy wants to be with a girl who tries to dictate who he can and cannot hang out with or be friends with, that is just beyond controlling and it shows that you are totally insecure. I think that you should work on your self esteem and trust issues before entering into another relationship. Good luck.

= So sorry, dear, but it sounds like you totally blew it with this guy. I think you may have been a bit too controlling of his life, and he decided to move on = - which it sounds like you should do as well. MY advice: You need to work on yourself before you try a serious relationship as, from reading YOUR words, you sound VERY insecure = and a bit needy / codependent = You need to get to know YOURSELF better first. You need to LOVE yourself first before you can love someone else. =:LOVE: And, trust me you will find love again, but you NEED to work on yourself first. Good luck!

If you can't trust him, you can't have him. If he's not trustworthy, good riddance! You are trying too hard to control the course of a faltering relationship instead of seeing it for what it is (broken) and getting out. Lesson to be learned: be respectful and find someone equally so.

OMG>>>I agree with all the comments above dear. You are way too controlling and demanding. Men hate that. If you would loosen the reigns and give him some space, he would appreciate you. I use to be the same way when I was younger and I blew it too. You have to move on and remember the advice on your next relationship.

I feel really bad for you and everyone is coming down pretty hard on you, although they are all rightin what they think, i think there were alreayd trust issues and that may be why you feel the way you do but as everyone has said you can't control who he hangs around, the more you try the worst things are going to be. You have to learn to accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can, meaning, change you first! You can;t change him, he has to want that for himself, trust me i learned this the hard way, im not the controlling type but i can relate with the trust issues your having. It doesn't sound like he wants to be in the relationship with you and he did just move in because of school, nothing more or less and if you want open and honest opinions from anyone here you have to tell the whole story because we can only go by why your telling us. good luck with everything

I agree with notinthemood. You need to feel that you can trust him, even though you are getting mixed signals. Monopolizing his time just isn't fair. You both need time apart to do things on your own so that you can appreciate your time together.