I'm 30 and I've been in my post-graduate school career for 3 years. I've been at my current job for just over a year.
My problem is my very sexist boss. He almost always shoots down my ideas, often mid-sentence. He closes his eyes, shakes his head, and acts like it's the dumbest thing he's ever heard.
Later, one of my male coworkers can give the same idea and he acts like it's the best thing he's heard all day. This has happened with everything from choosing an office supply to developing a client's marketing plan.
Aside from pointing out "Hey, I said that earlier and you didn't like it!", what can I do or say to get a little respect around here? There are many other young women who work here, but none in my same position.
He's the owner and we're a smallish company, so there's no HR department or boss I can talk to about it. Also, I'm in a specialized industry so quitting isn't really an option - there aren't a lot of other opportunities here.
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That is a tough one...it's going to be hard to do much without fanning flames, seeing as how it is a small company. My suggestion? Don't quit, but definitely start perusing your options...3 years is a long time to stick it out in a place where you are spending more than a third of your life! Post your resumes on careerbuilder, monster, etc. You can do it anonymously and when the right opportunity comes along, you will know when enough is enough.
1I couldnt run away or quit. I think I would confront this head on! Maybe set up a meeting with your boss. Ask him exactly what he is looking for in an employee because lately you feel as if you are missing the mark. I wouldnt sound defensive or whiny. Be clear in your statements and offer examples of when you've felt mistreated. He would hate it if you went to the media..right??? If that doesnt work then I agree with SydneyC maybe that isnt the right place for you.
2Time to stand your ground and show your boss that you're not some stereotypical whiny little girl who cries at the first sign of failure. Ask your boss to meet with you and lay it on the line. You feel you are being mistreated and that he doesnt respect your ideas. As chicaparati says, give him a few specific examples and tell him he is missing alot of good potential and you need to know what you're doing wrong and why you're not getting recognized. You got to this position the same way the other guys did so why arent you getting the same respect?
The only way to make this situation better is by not dancing around the subject. Time to grow a pair and lay it on the line.
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"
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