I started a new job at the same time as this other girl and we really hit it off. We are the only two 18 year olds there and we are both quite immature which made her a really fun person to be around. After a while I felt like she was someone I'd like to be in a relationship with... but she already has a boyfriend. First of all I know she loves her boyfriend but she seems to fall out with him over small things all the time. But when she does fall out with him she flirts with me... until they make up and then she goes back to normal! Is it right for me to try something when shes annoyed with him? Problem 1!
Problem 2 quite simply is I'm not great at starting any thing beyond asking a girl out. Even small things like spontaneous kisses have to be initiated by who ever I'm with! I just never want to feel like I'm making any girl uncomfortable so I tend to back off. Shes the opposite! She'll play on the spur of the moment and that's another thing I love about her! Thing is when shes flirting with me I can't tell if she wants me to do something or not so I tend to bet on the safe and not. Am I respecting boundaries, not picking up on the obvious or by doing nothing sending out the signals that I'm not interested?
Problem 3 is I know shes not a virgin but I am. A friend of mine who is a girl said its a bit of a turn off dating a newby in the bedroom because she prefers men with experience. Is this how most girls feel?
Any comment or advise for any problem would be very much appreciated 
Great Plains
A few thoughts:
1) She has a bf, need I say more on that issue? Are you aware of the Ten Commandments or..how about just being a decent person who respects other people's relationship. Imagine if your gf is being pursued by another dude, will you like it?
12) You may think she's flirting with you, but she may think that she's just being friendly especially since there are only the two of you that's of the same age. REALLY. Some girls don't even realize they're flirting. Plus believe it or not, MANY girls who have bfs still FLIRT sometimes.
3) Flirting doesn't equal: "DO ME NOW" or "Please sweep me off my feet" or something akin to that. Always opt for the safe option. Watch her flinch and try to avoid you every time if you actually made a move. Will that be good for the work environment for both you and her?
4) If you're with a girl who likes you, she WON'T CARE if you're a virgin. REALLY. Oh, I know. Rent "40-year-Old Virgin" In fact, you can even play it like you've waited for her so you'd stay a virgin. Corny. I know. But if that girl is in love with you, hey, she'll eat it up.
5) As for being a 'passive' dude. Hey, how about you..PRACTICE asking people out. ASK OTHER GIRLS (but this taken one) OUT.
Consider it..as HAVING FUN and just practice. God knows many people need the practice of asking people out or just going out enjoying each other in a fun manner. It doesn't have to lead to sex or serious relationship, you know. In fact, if you hold off on the sex part, you'll probably get to know the person better and develop emotional attachment.
Back off and stop enabling. Just because she's flirting doesn't mean it will equal sex.
2She is flirting with you with things go bad with her bf because it gives her a nice ego boost to know that another guy finds her attractive. That's it. It doesn't mean that she wants to be with you instead of her bf. So, your lack of experience is only a problem in the sense that you haven't had enough experience around women to understand how they operate. Most people enjoy flirting with the opposite sex. It doesn't mean that they necessarily want to have sex with that person. And I agree with others who said that being a virgin can be a really good thing. It can make a girl feel special, like you were waiting just for her. Also, she knows that you are disease free and a genuine person who doesn't just use girls for sex like quite a few other guys do. Start flirting with girls that are single, and I am sure you will meet a nice girl. If she is single, and flirting with you, or you sense that she is really interested, then ask her out. Good luck to you.
3I was in a similar situation so I can help with problem one. When I really got to know her out side of work I realised she wasn't much fun to be around. She was not girlfriend matterial because a realationship needs to be based on more than just a good time! Also with a boyfriend already in the picture its NEVER a good idea to get invloved no matter how much she comes on to you. In honesty she sounds like shes a little bit of a drama queen. Just don't play the knight in shinning armour for once and let her sort it out herself just to see what happens. Think about it, even if you were in a realationship with her and you had an argument, would you want her to go flurting with other guys? hope2be has all the right points on the other problems!
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