I talked to my ex on msn last week (after a long time) .At first I was being friendly but remembered that I have a boyfriend! then he sent me some pictures, he called me and after 2 hours of talking i totally forgot/did not care that I have a boyfriend ! I flirted with him like crazy and even told him that I still miss and love him! (which is true) BUT it's not good cause I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years ,love him very much and would never want to date my ex again (I like flirting with him, I find him VERY ATTRACTIVE, but don't want a long term relationship with him).
I never thought that this will make things complicated since he lives in France and we're so far away but he's started calling me everyday 
my boyfriend is going home for christmas so they'll probably see each other through their mutual friend.
Please tell me how to fix this
p.s. they don't know each other. and i feel bad not only because I"m worried my bf finds out but because I feel like a horrible person. I feel guilty. what should I do ?
9 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.
Wonderbra
*sigh*, I should do research and produce some statistics on how much trouble an ex causes.
The good news is you didn't do anything that bad. They don't know each other? Well don't worry about it.
Okay here is what you should do and realize. You said you don't want to date him long term or anything ever again, so whether or not you realize what you meant here, this indicates that everything you said in this post including the VERY ATTRACTIVE part, indicates it's all about lust and nothing more. You need to move on. Tell him straight up, the other day was a mistake, tell him to stop calling you so much, etc. If you have to, cut off communication from your ex, stop iming him, stop answering your phone, etc. Yes, block him and move on, you're already in a relationship with someone else who loves and trusts you. Yes trust is the key here. It's not like you have to go tell your bf what you did, realize and appreciate what you have with him. That's all for that. You can't "fix" it, you just need to move on. Don't feel like a horrible person either, people flirt all the time, that's life. It doesn't make you evil. Lots of people have done it while they were taken. I did it, it doesn't mean we should all burn in Hell. LOL, relax, move on and enjoy life.
1Exes are exes for a reason, that is my belief. Just because he is good-looking doesn't mean anything. But honestly, if you just flirted and that's all, just stop. It's not the worst thing a person can do, and if you knock it off it'll probably be fine. Everybody flirts so it's not the end of the world. Just make sure you're being fair to your current guy. Tell the ex you guys shouldn't be talking and that you've moved on. And then, really move on. It's easy to forget why you broke up with someone when time has passed but if you have a guy who's treating you well, don't start anything up with the ex.
2GScott86...your advice is like sacred for me right now,I've been naughty too...I'm just in lust with my ex - he's a model with a huge*** do you blame me ;->
3LoL, I don't blame you...I didn't feel guilty when I was doing it, I kind of liked it, and like the attention, part of me wanted to end up making out etc...but I knew I shouldn't act on my infatuation. Now that I'm a little more mature, I realize I have to be fair to the person that loves and trusts me. At this point I'm done with flirting, she's the only beautiful woman in the world to me
. Guess that's love huh? (But don't worry, I'm not naive).
4Tell you how to fix this? First, if you love your b/f like you say, you would have remembered him! Flirting with the ex is your way of wanting to be flirted with back and you know where this is going. Don't act like you dont..lol
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