There's a girl I work with who always hits on my boyfriend.
She's got her own guy, apparently but that doesn't seem to matter to her when she sees my guy.
She hits on him every chance she gets and when he comes to pick me up from work, (she and I work together) she always tries to hug him and even if he doesn't hug her back, she still will hug him and it is usually a full on body hug, with her arms around his neck and one time she even kissed his cheek.
Way out of line, and she's lucky I wasn't around to see that.
Still, I heard from my boyfriend that the other day she walked up to him and asked him if he and I were truly together and when he said yes, she actually said: "She's kinda thick."
That really set me off, because you'd think my boyfriend would say something to defend me, but he didn't, because he didn't want to make more waves.
According to him, he was so shocked, he couldn't think of anything at all to say and walked away without saying anything in response!
Now, I'm a tall girl and am in the process of losing some weight I've gained recently, but I am far from "thick."
I know this girl was just saying that to make herself look better and she is far from perfect herself.
In fact, she is about as white trash as they come and she has a huge belly, so if anyone is thick, it would most def. be her.
Anyway, we work in a bar together, so now all etiquette has gone out the window as far as she's concerned - I'm putting all politeness aside and I would REALLY love to tell her where to go, but I want to really give it to her in a way she can understand. Normally, I ignore rude idiots, but this one deserves everything she gets and I don't want to waste a good opportunity.
Anyone have any suggestions for what I can say that would make her shut the hell up?
Yeah, I know this is really immature and I know it's sinking down to her level, but sometimes it's justified!
Great Plains
Oh man what is up with women trying to steal another woman's man? She is definitely rude, but be happy your boyfriend tells you everything...I just posted about my boyfriend being flirty with his co-workers, and those girls just seem to love it. I can't stand it!! Since when did the work place become the last place to trust your significant other??
I think the best thing to do here is to take the high road and not stoop to her level. If you trust your boyfriend, then don't let this b*tch get in the way of that. Last thing you want is for her to tell your bf what you did and try to paint you in a bad light trying to gain sympathy from him. You know how men are - sometimes they are just too nice and don't think with their head. At least not the one on their neck. Last thing you want or need is a catfight with some trashy girl.
1If she's being rude, just tell her to 'shut up' and leave it at that, if she berated you after that 'shut up' comment, just always reply with 'shut up' and IGNORE her, it's going to get her more mad, I can almost guarantee that.
But only do this if you don't care about losing your job.
Once you stoop to her level, from the look of it, she's the 'thick' one (thick can mean 'dumb' too y'know--so she may mean you're 'dumb' instead of 'fat') and she'll probably try to 'fight you.' I don't think it's a great idea because you don't want to have blemish in your record, do you?
Plus if it goes that way, you can't exactly ask your boss for reference if you're thinking of moving up to a better pub/bar, because you'll have that 'fired due to fighting with a co-worker' mark on you.
If you need to stay in that job for awhile, the best thing is to: IGNORE her and try to get a different shift..if at all possible. Tell your boss/superior that you're not getting along with her and she's called you names before and very difficult to work with and ask if you can get different shift at least.
Tell your bf to not come pick you up at the workplace or just stay in the car so you can come to him instead of him hanging out in the bar. Unless he enjoys being hit on by that thick co-worker of yours. It seems that the most of it is about your bf, so your bf should either 1) stay in the car if he HAS to pick you up--which means, arrive on time but not too early. 2) you just find another mean of transportation to go home.
Good luck to you. Sorry, I can't be much of a help.
2Kill her with kindness. They say keep your friends close and your enemies closer . . .this is the time to employ that.
Next time you see her, tell her you're sorry you haven't gotten along in the past but you want that to change. Befriend her on Facebook or Myspace, if you're on there, talk to her like a friend and invite her to hang out with the girls next time you go. Odds are she'll say no, but you'll still look like the bigger person.
She'll see that you aren't threatened by her and actually see some value in her as a friend. This may be difficult for you, but it'll work - I swear.
The other issue at hand is your boyfriend's unwillingness to tell her to back off and his unwillingness to stick up for you. This should be dealt with as a separate problem, one that doesn't involve her. After all, he's a big boy who's responsible for his own actions. If he keeps this up, I suggest you look for love elsewhere.
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