I've been seeing my boyfriend for a few months and I know he's the one. I can feel it. The other night we were talking about our families and marriage in general, and in order not to freak him out, I made some negative jokes about getting married and having kids.
I totally didn't mean what I said. I overcompensated out of fear of looking too eager to talk about a future with him. I'm afraid my remarks may have given him the wrong impression about what I want for us.
So, how can I bring up the topic again and let him know I was joking, that I do want marriage and a family someday relatively soon?
Vicenza
YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK ON WHAT YOU SAID. Once you've said something and it's out and it's been heard, the damage is done, there is never any way to take it back. The only thing you can do is try to mend things and make it better. In your case, the damage is not done and you can in a way go back on what you said. Just next time you're having a lovey dovey conversation, or something. Or when you're all cuddled up and kissing, just tell him you love him and want to be with him the rest of your life and have a family, etc. And if he asks about the other night, just apologize, say I'm sorry and that you were scared you thought the talk about your future would be too soon and might have freaked him out. You'll be fine. If he's a good guy it won't be that big of a deal.
1LOL! Wow fatalistic huh? You can always go back on what you said. Just go umm remember the other day when...Yeah I didnt mean that.
There ya go!
2Depends, doesn't always work. "You suck at sex." How do you take that back?
3Once the words come out of your mouth and are spoken it's a done deal; you can't take them back. All you can do is apologize and say something like "I've been thinking about something I said the other day. I realized that HOW I said it came out all the wrong way and I'm sorry." Admit that you sometimes speak too soon and it all comes out the wrong way. You need to reassure him how you truly feel about him and he needs to do the same toward you.
You didn't mention how old you too are so it's hard for me to comment on "I do want marriage and a family someday relatively soon".
4Youd say: "umm remember the other day when I said you suck at sex?...Yeah I didnt mean that. Lets have sex now"
5You can't. Once it comes out of your mouth it's gone. All you can do is learn from this mistake and think before you speak.
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