My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly two years. He is the bread winner in our relationship and I am a full time college student. We live together and my "job" is to clean, do laundry, fix things around the house, cook...etc. Sometimes, though, i feel as though my boyfriend walks all over me. For instance, if I get distracted and don't do the laundry RIGHT when he wants it done, or clean the dishes RIGHT when he wants them clean he puts me on a guilt trip and tells me I am making too many excuses. He tells me that I am wrong and that since it's "my job" to be doing these things, he feels like i am not living up to his expectations. Tonight we had friends over and one of our friends was washing dishes as i was cleaning the table, chopping up strawberries, and preparing a meal. Our friend asked if we had a dish towel around and he kept asking me, as i was clearly doing all of this stuff at once, where the dish towels were and if i would go get them. I told him that they were upstairs in the towel closet and asked him if he could go get them. He rolled his eyes and made the "umm you want me to do WHAT" face. I then finished cleaning off the table and went upstairs to grab the towel. After our friends left he came back to the situation and said "Don't EVER make me look bad in front of my friends like that!" I asked him what he meant because I hadnt done anything to make anyone look badly and he replied "You said 'Why dont you go up stairs and GET THEM!?' very rudely" but i hadnt done that at all! He has a problem with control and feels like he has to OWN me and CONTROL me. I constantly feel like i am walking on thin ice with him because often times he corrects what i am doing and makes me feel like i am never good enough. He isn't abusive and he is very loving and caring but he has a bad temper when i try to stand up for myself. He tells me that I am "being too defensive" or "putting up a wall between us" if i stand up for myself. I don't feel equal to him at times and feel like a slave. He says that what he is doing is right and since he is older than I am he knows more about this stuff that I do (we're 9 years apart). His ways are very traditional and your typical "gender-role". We have a great relationship other than this but I don't know what to do. Sometimes i even feel like i am being brain washed. He sometimes says that i have it "to good" because i dont have a job but when i try to stick up for myself by saying "well actually, i have college and family stuff to deal with everyday, as well as keep this house spotless to your liking and take care of you and myself to a T" he gets angry and tells me that those are "minor" and that he deals with things that are far more important every day. Maybe There is something wrong with me for not seeing more of his side of the story but I really feel like I am getting the short end of the stick here. Please help me to understand this situation more thoroughly, i feel blinded!