I am in a relationship going on two years. He is absolutely my soul mate, and I realize that even through rough patches, like a broken engagement, as a major issue I overcame, and a series of minor problems. We generally have a good relationship, we enjoy each other's company, and always have fun together. The biggest problem I have is that he is not a very affectionate person in general, and he tends to put many things before me. I understand that I cannot be his number one, but I feel like he has replaces me with his job, and he lets the notion that I took everything from him get in the way. I don't believe I took anything from him, but obviously life has changed. We moved in together, and he got rid of friends who were very bad for him. He blames me for being the person who took his life away.

He says he wants friends, and to do things without me -- which I have no issues with. However, I told him, that when that happens, then he needs to make sure that he puts effort into our relationship -- which he doesn't do now. I feel completely neglected, unattractive, and in general just unimportant. He says I do it to myself, but sometimes you need the one you love to treat you that way, and not just say the words. I feel like I am being selfish telling him that when it gets to the point where he has friends and is going out with them -- then he has to work on our relationship. His boss, who is a huge influence on him, has a great wife who lets her hubby do anything -- however, they have a fantastic relationship, and he acts very differently towards his wife than my boyfriend acts towards me. My boyfriend acknowledged this, but said that he will do what he wants anyway, and I can go f*ck myself.

Am I really being unreasonable? I have been trying to fix some of the issues we have, and I have told him many times the simple things that can help things immensely. Am I being a total b*tch telling him that he should make me and our relationship, which came first, a priority before making friends and then leaving me at any time he wants?

I am not saying he can never have friends. I am saying that if he plans on using more things to replace me, I should at least have a boyfriend who shows me that he loves me.