The night I got married my best friend sent me an email telling me he loved me. I got the message in the Bahamas, just checking my mail at an internet cafe, with my new husband a few steps away. I didn't know what to do or say so I didn't say anything, not to my best friend or my husband. I've been confused about it, because I had thought at other times in our relationship that I loved him too. The next time I talked to him after that, he said it wasn't a big deal, he had just been working too much and stayed up too late. So If he wanted to forget about it, I did too. But we haven't been the same since, we're definitely not best friends anymore, but maybe that would've happened anyway. I haven't let it bother me too much, except sometimes when I dream about him, and then I think about him all the next day. It's so confusing. He isn't in my life anymore, so I don't know what it's about, I just want it to stop. So how do I stop dreaming about him??
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By realizing that you have a husband that you love more than anything in this world, and that chapter with your friend is close and should stay closed. Move on from him if you have to cut ties. Really some people will probably end up saying sort of your feelings, but in my opinion, when people come out with this whole I love you stuff at these points in time, it just throws everything off, why? Because some people aren't strong enough to realize what they have and what decisions they made. You got married (I'm guessing because you love your spouse and no one else). Someone recently told me one reason they know why they love me and no one else: Because they can go days without talking to those other people or whatever, but they need to talk to me every day. Figure out who you really love, why you love them. And discern whether it is that you love the idea of them or the person. Then think who really love you, and why and whether or not despite anything they would be there for you and would truly continue to love you. Many say they love but few truly mean it.
1Hmm.. I didn't get the impression that she loved him, just that he would show up in her dreams sometimes - and we don't know in what context. You say you're not best friends anymore, maybe that's what's bothering you and something that needs to be fixed or maybe just forgotten.
2It was very selfish for your friend to tell you that right after your wedding. I'm sorry he did.
But look at it this way. If he was really the guy for you, you would have known it long ago. Trust yourself and your decision to marry the man you did.
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