I think there can be basic rules, like No Drop-Ins and No Sunday Morning Visits. But to ask them not to bring food is just dumb. I love cooking and baking, and I'm always more than happy to share with family. That's a gesture of kindness, and you should be happy for it.

If it's something you don't like or you already made dinner, say "Thank you so much! Do you mind if I pop this in the freezer? We've got a busy week coming up and this will be great for a quick dinner down the road."

I think there should be rules. No calling after a certain time unless it is an emergency, call before you come over, don't tell me how to raise my kids etc. I would just like my in-laws to respect my space and my decisions when I do get married.

I do appreciate when my mother-in-law brings food over....BUT, I sort of wish it was things that we needed (she knows the foods the kids eat) instead she will bring alot of junk food which none of us need!! I guess it should be set that asking what is needed before you bring "care packages" would be a good rule.