I've been with the same person on-and-off for three years. Both he and I are incredibly stubborn and this causes us to fight sometimes. I'm currently in medical school and he is going to school to become a history teacher, however he repeatedly brings up my choice in profession. He recognizes that doing what I want to do will take up a significant amount of my time and he feels as if I will forget about him. I completely understand that he's scared, I'm scared too, but I don't think that when he starts yelling at me and criticizing me for my decision we get anywhere at all. It seems like all we do lately is fight. I'll come home and he'll ask me about my day but as soon as I start to tell him, all I get is "You're so f#*($ing selfish, how could you do this to me?" I love him, I do...but I don't think that I should have to give up a dream I've had since I was a kid. What should I do? Should I just call it quits because he can't seem to support me, or should I try to work it out with him? He's pushing me away so hard lately, that I don't even know how I feel anymore...
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well the medical field is extremely demanding. and time consuming. but at the same time very rewarding. however its a long road. and like i said time consuming...so its imperative for u to be with someone who not only understands, but supports this. and he obviously doesnt and is extremely resentful. it will never work out for u two. i also believe that u deserve to be with someone who supports ur dreams. its probably best to move on.
1Sun_Sun is right. You need to be with someone who can understand and support you 100% in your decision and career path.
This is just a thought: He may only be using this (your career path) as an excuse to be resentful, he may have other motive in his mind in order to aggravate you enough for you to end it for good.
I think you shouldn't give up your career path and your dream (that you've had since childhood) for a man who doesn't seem to love you enough to begin with. Good luck to you!
*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*
2Tell him you're sorry he can't handle your career, and then end the relationship. You need to be with someone who loves and supports you, not someone who feels inferior and upset over your choices.
3DTMFA (Dump the Mutha F*cker Already) What a jerk! He is showing some advanced signs of trying to control your life. Dump him for a guy who actually believes in you and supports you and doesnt resent you. This relationship is doomed. Get out before you screw up your life.
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"
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