This guy and I had this wonderful relationship for well over a year and half now. We were very good friends, had disagreement problems just like any other couple, got over it and moved on. Anyways, we had the worst fight ever where we both behaved irrationally and said really mean things to each other. This happened after we spent a really good afternoon in each others company eating and laughing and just having a wholesome time together. We are now not speaking to each other at all. He's gone so far as changing one of his numbers because I ended out last conversation just furious and yelling and screaming because of what he was saying to me. I love him so much. During happier times I remember how he used to look at me with a big smile on his face, he was also so contented and happy when we were together. I need some advice here as to what I can do to make this relationship work again. I know I ticked him off because of the many texts and emails I sent to try to get him to talk to me. I love him dearly and want him back.
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I think you both might have burned a bridge with this relationship. Sometimes when we say really awful things to each other the trust is broken. I'm not sure what was said and who started it but he is sending you a message that he doesn't want to talk right now. He went as far as to change his phone number. It also leads me to believe that you might have some anger issues. It's normal for couples to have fights but when it gets to the point where you're yelling mean names at each other and blowing up, It's unhealthy. So right now you need to let him simmer down and you need to keep yourself busy. It might turn out that he doesn't want to continue the relationship, but you can't force his opinion.
1He changed his phone number. That means he's serious about not wanting to speak with you. Instead of sitting around daydreaming about how he used to look at you, be honest with yourself and evaluate the situation. Odds are, it's time to move on. If he wants you back, he'll call.
2This guy and I had a history together. I got hima job where I work (in a different dept) where he's making 5 times the amount of money he used to make. The last time we spoke he never said anything about changing his phone number which makes me wonder if someone else had something to do with that decision.I can still send him IM and emails online so he still receives my communication. If he was completely over me wouldn't he have blocked all contact? I just don't know what to do?
3I understand that you're still in denial. I really believe from an outsider's pov (who's probably more objective) that I think your relationship with him is done.
I have to let you know that helping him get a job in a different department doesn't entitle you to be with him. Or it doesn't give him the obligation to stick it out with you when he doesn't want to do so. Neither does having long history. Many couples BREAK UP. It sucks when you have a big investment in the relationship, but it is the way it is. I had a long history w/ my ex-fiancee, I spent a LOT of money on him, helped him in his career/education but it doesn't mean that I have to stick with him if the relationship doesn't work out. And it didn't work so it ended.
A relationship is two-way street and you can't force him to accept you back when he doesn't want any communication from you. Changing a phone number is BIG. I think he may even think you're stalking him, yes, he may ask someone what to do with the constant harassing (in his opinion) calls/texts, and yes, someone may have suggested for him to change his number. So if I were you, I'd stop all the IM/E-MAILs because he may be keeping those for his 'safekeeping.' As in, if it were to come down to litigation, he can sue you for harassment. I don't know if he'll win, but he'll have enough base to do so if he felt bothered enough to change his number and refuse communication with you.
The only way you know that he wants to talk to you is HE'LL CONTACT YOU and TELLS YOU THAT HE WANTS TO TALK to you.
What to do is STOP with the e-mails/texts/im/calls/contact. Let him go. Accept that it's over. Learn from this situation to not repeat this in the future.
Good luck to you.
4Listen, we all have history with each other before we breakup. He most likely receives your emails and messages but doesn't want to talk to you! which means he isn't read to communicate and from the sounds of it he wants to move on. Stop being in denial and stop communicating with him. I'm sure he read your messages about how sorry you're and it doesn't seem to effect him.
5If you guys end up back together, don't bring this issue up again, because all it will do is restart the argument. EVERY relationship has issues.. if you both make it through with one another, you'll be so much stronger in your relationship
good luck!
6If he changed his number that is a huge sign that it's over from his standpoint. He needs to be the one to pursue the relationship if it is to be rekindled.
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