My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 months. He is about 6 yrs older than me which means he also has a lot more experience when sex is concerned, he was also my first EVERYTHING. Our relationship has had its ups and downs but we've been able to work through them and we're happy now. The only issue is that he doesn't enjoy sex. I don't know what to do because I enjoy it but he's told me that he doesn't. He claims the problem is our weight. Because we are both over-weight it is kind of hard for him to get in deep and or hold a position. I kind of had doubts about this because he is much more experienced in that field, but he still treats me like a princess and the same as day 1 so I know this is not the cause. I cant blame him for saying that our weight is the reason because I feel the same way to a certain extent. There are very few times when he gets in very good but cant hold the position and then we both get frustrated. We've tried different positions like doggy style, missionary and spoon, but none of them seem to work for us, at least not long enough for us to really enjoy it. I don't want our relationship to end because of this problem, which is why both of us have agreed to try to lose weight together. We've set goals and prizes and what not, but my question is ladies, what can I do to make up for this? or if any of you have been in this situation before, are there any positions that might work for us? I know there are a lot of over-weight couples out there that have great sex lives, so please help!
Wonderbra
try doing oral more often instead of regular vaginal sex. oral isn't affected by weight, and is a great way to keep up your sex life until you see the results you want.
1I was in the same situation a bit too. We were both able to lose the weight, not all of it but some of it. Oral was good for him for sometime. I dont know if yours with him is, but if its not, then ladies any suggestions?
2Oral is great, but how about woman-on-top position, have you guys tried it yet? I don't that position would be too tiring for you, and he just needs to..um..lay there and gets to enjoy the look on your face
3Losing weight together is a great idea - I'm in the same situation with my partner. We're both overweight and yes, in some positions it feels like your bodies just totally aren't compatible. That can be really frustrating. I will second the comment about oral sex, but if that's not your thing the two positions that we have enjoyed the most are Cowgirl (you on top, knees bent at his side, try leaning back slightly) and Butterfly (similar to missionary, but requires a bit more coordination). You can do a Google search and find instructions for these pretty easily. Best of luck and have fun!
4I've been in overweight realtionships before and never had a problem with sex.
I think the real problem here is that HE doesn't enjoy sex. Does he like it when you give him oral or is he just not turned on at all? Being overweight can effect a man's sex drive negativly. His own wanning sex drive is probably the real proplem here. As you do not have much expriance you wouldn't know.
Try being on top. Unless he gets soft you should be able to hold that postion until the end. Do you guys have a lot of foreplay before penetration? And why can't he hold the postions? Physical pain in other parts of his body or with his erection?
Before any real help can be fiven these are the things that need to be answered.
5Oh, I was going to comment, but then I saw this post is almost a year old.... Oh well.
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