I understand the concern, but I think its best to remain cool about it. Especially for you, since he doesn't seem into it.

I recall a bachelor party here for a friend, and the bride to be actually said that if the guys hired strippers, she would call the wedding off. All that did was tempt those guys to do just that, because they all disliked her so much!

So maybe if you act like its not a big deal, it won't be.
Plus, whats stopping the girls from having a good time too?

My boyfriend's friends aren't interested in that sort of thing so I really don't ever think about it.

I had a boyfriend whose friends did something like that in college and he came over afterwards and told me all the gross stories. I knew he wouldn't do anything with her and I didn't care if he watched her do gross things. I guess I don't feel threatened by it based on the fact that I inherently trust my BF.

Well you are right to have reservations because some of these parties go too far. But is it in your husband to be nature to attend such an event? I know my husband didnt want one even though his friends were pushing him to have one....he is shy and just didtn want one at all...he is very simple and laid back (reason why I love him so much). But inevitably you must trust your man because putting demands will only cause resentment.

Bachelor parties and all those things are a big ol

Ok,I understand why the girl who wrote this comment feels the way she does. Let me give you some history. I have always been a tom-boy and always hung out with a group of guys more than I have any girls. Yes, I was friends with the girls, but am more closer to the guys having such a longer friendship with all of them. I can tell you this: Guys are completely different when they are all together and especially drunk and at a bachelor party. I'm not saying all of them cheat, but most cut it pretty close. I think because most of not only my group of guy friends know I wouldn't snitch, but any other guy I have hung out with at parties trust me and let loose in front of me. They all get together, want strippers, cat call eachother to do something crazy, talk like disgusting pigs....its like the nicest guys I know who treat their girlfriend like queens are the worst one's. One of my friends almost slept with a stripper on his* bachelor night because all of his friends kept joking and it got out of hand and then the stripper said she would, so they pushed him and her into a room together while he was smashed and shut the door. THank god he couldn't get up. It's like their animalistic nature comes out and they are feining to reproduce. They make it worse on eachother because it is almost like peer pressure to join in and be nasty. And now here's the other thing. I know So** many strippers. You should hear the stories of them saying how this guy and that guy all ask secretly if they paid them more if they would do other stuff....and most of those nasty aquaintances of mine actually do. Some have quit the business though because they say it is so hard to deal with how nasty the guys act together...especially at bachelor parties. Most of them don't get to the point of screwing her cheating...but if you saw what I'd seen you would most definately say that the lust they show is just as bad. One of my stripper friends said that most of the bachelor's friends** are the one's who try to pay the stripper to get her to do something for the bachelor....talk about pressure. So go ahead..trust your men...some are decent...but 99.99% act the same way at these things...and all my guy friends are the sweetest..."i love you only babe", "You have nothing to worry about," guys that could charm your a** off. Most of them genuinely do love their girlfriends, some have cheated, when I ask why they did...they always say "it was in the moment...and it was stupid." or "I totally regret it and love my girl."................But why let them get themselves in that position? If they really love you...they wouldn't want you to feel that uncomfortable.