The longer you wait to take that test will make it even worse on you when it comes abortion time. At one month you don’t see what you see at 1 and half months old or more. I will not go into the classification of killers because there are many classifications. But you asked if you’re a murderer. No, first of all you can’t even bring yourself to take the test, and you’re already badly judging yourself.

Trying to make sure you have a more stable future is not cowardly. You two are young Things change, people change and he’s already showing you that if you don’t have the abortion that he’ll have a different attitude. He doesn’t want it, he told you that. You’re wants won’t be the same when your 25. You’ll never have the family that you want forever when you have drama so early on.

This is the time in your life when you should be enjoying life and deciding what you want in your later future. Right now all you have is a promise or an idea that you MIGHT be together forever. If it is just not time for a child then it is just not the time for you. Struggling financially, mentally, and physically now, will not prove you to be a better person if you make it through. Make your choice for your future now while it is still early enough to do so. You can always go forward in life, but you cannot ever go back.

I'd suggest for you to take the pregnancy test first before you dwell so much into it.
And if you have health insurance (even if you don't, try to get contraception anyway), learn as many option as possible, find the one you're comfy with.

I never have an abortion, so I don't really know if it hurt, I know that they have over the counter 72-hour-pill (in case you think you weren't protected when having sex), or there's the new stuff called the abortion pill too, but I believe (if not mistaken) that you need to take it up to 8 weeks after you're diagnosed that you're pregnant.

Get tested first. Good luck.

My old roommate got pregnant. I think she was afraid to admit it or take a test. She decided to have an abortion, but then couldnt go through with it. She had the baby and she and her boyfriend didnt work out. In fact she couldnt come to my wedding bc it was her weekend with the baby and he wouldnt switch with her and if she tried to bring the baby with her she would have to cross the state line and he would have charged her with kidnapping.

I know she loves her son, but she has to deal with that jerk for the rest of her life now and she was only 19 when she got pregnant- Im sure she wishes things were different. If your bf doesnt want you to have the baby and you do anyway he will resent you. Having a baby should be happy and exciting. I honestly dont think this is the right time for you to be having a baby.

Just so you know, a FETUS is not considered a human until it takes it's first breath of air in the Canadian Constitution (don't know about American).
I know that you wouldn't be considered a murderer. Even when a women is murdered and is pregnant and her baby dies, whoever murdered her cannot be charged with 2 mansluaghters.

I've had friends who've had abortions. It wasn't exactly a good time, but none of them outright said it hurt. However, if you do decide to get one then listen to the doctor when he tells you to stay in bed for several days afterward. One of my friends didn't listen and 4 days later gave birth to a fist sized blood clot.

If you are afraid, there is always adoption. If you don't want the baby but you can't go through with the abortion, there is no reason you have to keep it.

Then again, maybe you just have the flu.

Honey,
I would seriously go take a test, because not knowing is NOT going to change the results. The sooner and earlier you know, the more options you have.
As far as the murderer thing goes...your body is YOURS, no one else's. You have to do what is best for you, and if you are considering him, for your partner. However, your FIRST concern should be you and the child you may or may not be carrying. If you are not prepared to carry a child for nine months, be a parent, raise and nurture a child...you should NOT have a child. If you feel like you are not ready for this and you do not want this, then that is your right. There are other options beside abortion, but still...that is an option that you have should you decide to make that choice.
As far as it hurting...they give you pain medication...call a clinic and talk to someone. I have taken a few people to abortion clinics, they walked out fine, they were a little groggy and drowsy, and had a little cramping, but they were fine.
I would suggest that you make these moves now, and don't wait. The best thing to do is face the situations that you find yourself in...don't run or hide from them.
You will be fine.

"Guaranteed to be way more fresher..."

Please check out some of the pregnancy support sites out there. This one (http://standupgirl.com/web/index.php)is all true stories of girls with unplanned pregnancies, and the choices they made. whatever you decide, listen to your heart, and don't let anyone, ever, talk you into something you aren't comfortable with.

THE EARLIER you make your decision THE BETTER. At one month the baby is basically still aball of cells but after that they develop quickly, fetus's have a nervous system and brain THEY DO FEEL PAIN. You are not ready right now and if its early enough i would go to the doctor tomorrow and get an abortion. DONT WAIT just because you are nervous this is a life we are talking about.

First, promise yourself that no matter what, you will ONLY make decisions based on your best interest and the best interest of the baby (if there is one.)

Then, take a pregnancy test.

Do not give in to peer pressure from your boyfriend, family or anyone else. If you make a decision based on them, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. And if you were to be pregnant and abort to keep your boyfriend happy, he'd eventually leave you anyway.

I usually agree with your post luisamapacha, but you can't say for definite the boyfriend would leave her. You never know what peoples situations are. It's a jaded opinion. If you truly believe you can't financially provide for the baby and can't give it the live it deserves you could consider adoption or abortion. I had a friend who aborted her child at 5 months old! It was absolutely disgusting. If you're going to do it -- do it now.

life*

Get tested.

I Have regreted it everyday since I had mine.
I cannot believe how willing I was to give up something that came from my boyfriend, whom I love more than anything, and myself.
That little baby inside me was us- me and him.
You will have what-ifs for the rest of your life. Be very ready, and think through your decision.
you might not still be pregnant after, BUT you will wonder about that little one for the rest of your life.