I am getting married in 10 months. I have asked my future sister-in-law to be a bridesmaid because I really like her and she and my fiance are very close. Last week she told my fiance that she and her husband are going to be trying to have a second baby. My question is, with 10 months, you can see that the timing may work out so that she is VERY pregnant when our wedding rolls around. I am totally fine with her not being a bridesmaid, but my concern is that she will not be able to come at all! She lives across country and has to fly in. So I have a few questions, namely, how late into a pregnancy can a woman fly? And also, is this something we can even talk to her about? Believe me, I am not a Bridezilla and I don't think my wedding should halt her reproductive plans, but my fiance will be heartbroken if she is not there. Any suggestions?
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Most women fly through the end of their second trimester with no problems.
The thing is... you've already set a date for your wedding. Knowing that date, your sister in law is trying to have a kid. So she's sort of already decided that if she gets pregnant she just won't make it to your wedding.
You can't change dates for her. If and when she announces she's pregnant, just call to confirm/ask if she can still be a bridesmaid and if she says no don't take it to heart.
1can she only fly to get to your wedding?can she not drive or take a train?i would not say anything just yet as she is not pregnant just yet.i would wait until she announces a pregnacy x
2It happens. A friend of mine's sister couldn't come to his wedding because she had twins 6 days after he got married. I'm sorry if it doesn't work out, but it still may. If she's really, really pregnant on your wedding day she's not going to want to drive or take a train.^ She's going to want to sit on a couch and wish she was done being pregnant.
3Honesty, I wouldn’t even worry about it. I think you have a lot more that you need to focus on rather than your in-laws trying to create another human.
I am sure they are not going to get pregnant in the first month they try and she will be giving birth in exactly nine months or so. There is a chance she may not get pregnant until a couple months leading up to your wedding or not at all. You don’t even really know…I think you are jumping way too ahead of yourself. Just because she mentioned that they were thinking about trying for a baby means it is going to happen for sure. I wouldn't really base my wedding party around the "IF" she gets pregnant. That is kind of a waste in my eyes. If she is not your maid of honor - then I wouldn’t let this cross your mind again. And I wouldn't even discuss it unless something happens, if you do, then you are looking like a bridezilla. If she happens to get pregnant, congratulate her and then you can discuss the dress alterations, flying conditions, etc. Basically, don’t count your chickens before they hatch.
4too many "what ifs" in your question. when you get to that bridge, cross it.
until then, continue on with your wedding plans. you're stressing yourself out over a hypothetical.
5100% with nicachica.
6Wait a minute...if your wedding is in 10 months and she's already pregnant...won't she have the baby by the wedding date? Am I missing something?
7Nevermind...I just re-read that she isn't pregnant yet. Haha, my bad.
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