Hi Sugar friends- I tried posting to Group Therapy before but am not sure if I did it right the first time, so forgive me if you've already heard this. Then again, I only received one comment last time, and while it is GREAT advice I am interested in hearing different perspectives.

I’ve been working in my office for a little over a year. Almost since day one, I’ve been attracted to one of my coworkers. While we consider ourselves friends, he certainly has his bad days. In fact, sometimes he’s just plain exasperating: moody, only displays a sense of humor on his good days, and somewhat awkward. I'm not the only one who notices this- almost everyone in our office has had something to say about it, and the general consensus is that on bad days, he is both insecure and self-centered.

I’m an eternal optimist and someone who loves to laugh all of the time. Obviously our personalities are very much at odds. Even so, he’s been there for me during some difficult times, like making me feel at home when I was brand new to the office (and the area- I moved across the country!), inviting me to hang with his friends, and giving me sound advice when I was being considered for a promotion. He can certainly turn on the charm when he wants to, and it doesn’t hurt that he is INCREDIBLY smart.

I’m an intelligent woman, and I’ve tried time and again to focus my sights elsewhere. I go out on the occasional date and I have friends outside the office. But just when I think I’m completely over him, he does something like give me a hug and I find myself attracted to him all over again. I dread the day he may come in and tell all of us he met someone. Lately he's been talking to me more, touching me and in my gut I know something in our relationship is changing, but I'm not sure how. I feel like he’s in my head all of the time, and try as I might I can’t get him out! I see him every weekday and my attraction is just growing into something that is exhausting and overpowering. I'm worried that if the opportunity presents itself (e.g. flirting during happy hour goes to the next level), I'll be making a huge mistake.

Have any of you found yourselves in a situation like this? Either with a coworker, or with someone who you feel or know is totally wrong for you? Have you taken the plunge even though you had your doubts, and what happened after? Please help me out.