You sound kind of insecure about this relationship in general. Maybe that's why the brief hiatus from sex has you worried? I don't know.

It seems pretty obvious that you haven't had sex for very good reasons. It's not like you've had a ton of chances to have sex and he turns you down.

If it goes on longer and he seems uninterested then bring it up. Otherwise, just chalk this up to circumstances beyond your control and try to relax.

It's been two weeks, dear, and you're this concerned? You were sick and he had an emergency, and now you're freaking out because "something's missing?" If you're old enough to be having sex, you should be mature enough to realize that real life does occasionally impact your sex life - in both negative and positive ways. This isn't a relationship issue - it's your issue. Grow up.

Honey knows, isn't this group therapy? maybe we shouldn't attack people out right like this? i really enjoy reading other peoples' opinions on here, but seriously, a lot of times you guys take an issue and blow it out of the proportion. i don't think the poster denies it being her issue and she wrote to get some help. maybe she realises this and wants help to work through it.

i'd say talk to him and let him comfort you.

oh yeah, my advice wasn't really good enough ))

what i wanted to say was let him comfort you, that will ease you, but then you need to work on your personal growth like other people suggested but not in a very nice manor.

Allytta, if you feel like my response to the OP is equivalent to an attack, I suggest you report my comment. I don't think there was anything abusive about my comment - there was no derision, no aspersions on her character, no insults about her personally. For the record, I completely disagree with your portrayal of my comment as an attack.

You're certainly welcome to disagree with me, and give any type of advice you'd like. If you'd like to say the OP needs to, "work on her personal growth," and I prefer to use the term, "grow up," that's fine with me. But to be clear, I don't really care for your condemnation, or your negative, vague generalizations about the character of the comments on this board. While people here may occasionally overstep, they're all taking the time to provide feedback to total strangers, and IMO, there's a time to sugar-coat and a time to be blunt. I trust my own judgment regarding which approach to use. Seriously, take a look at what you wrote - I'M the one who blew something out of proportion? Thank you, no.

You sound very needy. There are good reasons why you and your boyfriend haven't been together, and it's only been 2 weeks...unless there is more going on then you are relaying in your post, you need to chill, or you are going to blow it with this guy.

If you are the high maintenance type that needs that much attention ( yet another "5 month anniversary" person), perhaps this isn't the guy for you. It sounds like he has a life that he has to tend to and it doesn't include you 24/7. That is life, no matter who you are with. Either accept it or find yourself a clinging vine that will always put you first.

I agree 100% with pop and honey.

Ok, I am not sure that I have any different advice to give, I agree with pop, honey and jazzy. It sounds like there are good reasons for why you 2 haven't and things will be better once he gets back.

I just have to comment that I don't understand celebrating a 5 month anniversary? Seriously why randomly pick a month and then decide to celebrate it? I don't get it at all. I can understand celebrating years but I don't understand celebrating months??? Also not understanding only seeing someone 2 days a week? I get it that people are busy, but personally I wouldn't be happy spending that little time with my SO. Just my opinion.

When you say you fully support his academic career, do you mean emotionally, financially, or both? But seriously complaining over not having sex in two weeks because life issues got in the way is not being reasonable.

If you feel you miss sex, then schedule a time to get together soon and then get it on. Problem solved.
As for 'something missing' thing, I don't know what's going on within the relationship, you're the one who need to decide for yourself what you want from a relationship, maybe you're not ready to completely support his busy schedule/lifestyle, maybe things aren't as copacetic as you want to believe. Think about it.

Good luck.

Signs point to you feel that sex is the only way you can somewhat satisfy your man. If there is no sex, you feel he will stray and leave you alone. You had a lot to go through these last two weeks. Flu sucks, takes all your energy, and an emergency on his side this obviously took his mind from things. I feel this newest generation ( I am included in there) that the ladies feel that all they can offer a man is sexual relations which is not true.

I don't get the 5 month anniversary celebration either.

To the OP,

You need to chill and not be so clingy.There are all types of circumstances that are going to pop up and put a hold on your plans. It's called life.You need to learn how to deal with it and not jump to conclusions .
As for you feeling that there's something missing...... my advice to you would be to look into that further .Maybe this relationship is not for you.

I don't get about the whole argument on this post, well..the why anyway. Since I thought that GT opinion is usually for the OP?

One sugar member jumping in to 'attack' or 'criticize' another sugar member's opinion/post. Then, it goes on with another member saying someone should be put on their place, etc. I'm pretty surprised to read how personally/deeply one member felt about another member's post even in past posts.

I don't remember anyone's post very well, but pretty sure based on my own, sometimes I do write with a 'nicer' tone, there were times when I wrote 'harshly' or not so wisely, not so perfect basically. I thought that everyone probably is the same way, no one is perfect.
But I know I don't like being misquoted or misinterpreted especially when you write your opinion not for another poster, but for the original poster of the GT, but that's just me. Yes, I completely get too the point of being that this is a free online forum, everyone is entitled to jump on every post and argue their hearts away.

Since my post has usually been directed for the Original Poster and always has been, just don't see the point on arguing or disagreeing with another poster's opinion because everyone is entitled for their own opinion no matter how harsh/sarcastic it can get.

I do respond though when someone is posting commenting on my comment.

Happy Black Friday. Totally being OT here.

WOW why are you people so much drama. Put your claws away and talk after that time of the month passes!

How about all of you grow up? Enough of this internet fight! Seriously!

Honey, you've attacked me for 'berating' someone in a post and now you're doing the exact same thing. When you called me out on it, at least I was woman enough to apologize for wording my post so harshly, and you know what? I felt better after I did apologize. Maybe you should do the same. You generally give good advice, but really, b*tch fighting and getting the last word? You're better than that. Also, I don't internet fight so don't bother responding.

It's only been two weeks, OP. Five to six months seems to be the stress point in most relationships. Either you break up over something not-too-serious or you get serious. A man doesn't take care of a woman when she's got the flu unless he's serious. You say that sex "brings me closer to him and that's how I feel loved." If you need sex to feel loved maybe you need to take a look at yourself and realize you have more to offer than just your pussy- this man obviously sees something in you that's worth caring about. Figure out what it is and you'll feel loved (by yourself!) even during a dry spell. There are times when you'll have lots of sex and there are times when you'll go a week or two without it. Don't guilt trip him over this.

Also, a bit of advice I've picked up from my male friends: guys HATE meaningless anniversaries. 5 months? Worth noting maybe but not celebrating. A friend of mine got thrown in the dog house for missing his one-year and eight-month anniversary. Don't be that chick. You can't go through life celebrating the 18th of every month as yours; it'll take away from the fun of the real anniversaries.

Hey everyone, please let us stick to giving advice, as that is what Group Therapy is for - no need for any off topic comments that will only lead to hurt feelings. Thanks!

Betty Wayne - If you look at the thread, I didn't get the last word - my last post was on 11/27. I let it go - so what exactly are you trying to add with your comment, four days later? Peace? Harmony? Are you trying to help? I don't think so. Frankly, I told an OP to grow up - that's NOT TANTAMOUNT TO A PERSONAL ATTACK.

To the post above. There are many couples who have less sex than that and their relationships are solid. It seems like, not to jump to conclusions, but it does seem like from your post he is very busy with work and studies and you are very busy being revolved around him. There's nothing wrong with that, and sex is nice but it takes more than that to assure a relationship is going well. After all you could be having great sex all the time and making that a priority yet it still would not make any guarantees about the true nature of his feelings, would it?

i agree with the comments on this 5 month thing - what's that all about? i don't recall if you said how old you are, but you sound quite young, if that is the case, give your man the space he needs to build a life and you consentrate on the same for yourself.

to my fellow sugars, please, i respect all of you and i'd like to think that mistakes can be forgiven- we all are human and are going to be in this same position more than once. let's try to do unto others as we'd have them do unto us.

Just kidding even though that comment will be taken seriously, oh freakin' well. Good advice though gamestomper.