i have been with my boyfriend for abot 6months now, but prior to being together we have been friends for about a year now. i have never really fell in love with anyone before but for some reason i happened to love him not long after gettin together with him. i have recently gone through a lot of family problems and he has always been there to comfort me he has made sure i always had a smile on my face and no matter what mood i was in he always made me laugh. although we spent quality time together we also made sure we kept our seperate lives so we spent time with our mates, which just made seeing him even better. we could talk for hours and never run out of things to say.
but recently we havent spoke to each other like we used to, its now always me texting him first if i dont i probably wouldnt here off him, but even when he does reply to me he takes hours when i know in the meantime he is havin time to text other people just not me, when he replies he puts the most bluntest answers possibly compared to the essay messages he used to send me.
he is now spending all his time with his mates and not seeing much of me whatsoeva he always comes up with the excuse im tired im gonna get an early night....i feel lik eim in a one way relationship and all i do is give but never get anythin back. i feel i should fight for his love, i would hate to lose him but now its making me feel sad all the time and i just wanna cry over him.....do you think i will have a chance fighting for him, or am i best lettin him go? 
does he still love me????
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Isabella Oliver
what does he say when you address this issue? you should really talk to him.
but from what I understand he's not treating you right anymore and that is just unforgivable. move on.
1Thanks for your advice
when i address him about the problem he just says that he has
been busy and doesnt mean to make me feel like this the first few times i beleived him but then he doesnt change the way he is being with me.....i feel that really i need to leave him be and
move on but he is always in my head and i am a person tht always says what i think so i cant help myself messagin him all time 
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2He's fallen out of love. Doesn't mean he doesn't still love you, though.
Stop putting the pressure on him. Do your own things with your friends and back off. That's your only chance.
Sorry.
3Well kiddo, you need to start helping yourself, cause he's not going to help you.
I don't know what his deal is, but I'm inclined to think he wants to string you along for sex, or until someone better comes along. You have to let go of how he used to treat you, and deal with how he's treating you now. Stop chasiing him - you deserve better.
4He met someone else. I'm sorry, but that is the most likely scenario.
"I can't help messaging him all of the time"....um, yes you can...put down the phone and focus on other things to keep busy. I know it is painfully hard to do and that you miss him, but you are treading into psycho ex territory. The more you text, the more he will pull away until he completely stops communicating with you. This WILL happen if you don't stop. Trust me.
BTW, I don't believe in the concept of "fighting" for someone. They either want to be with you or they don't, period. If you are in a mutual relationship with problems, and both parties want to work on it, different story. That is not the case here.
I'm sorry but he is over it, and you need to move on. What you're doing is not healthy.
5I agree with the ladies, especially honey and jazzytummy. I don't think that there is any reason or need for you to fight for him. I know that it seems tempting, but if he doesn't realize how great you are, then fighting for him is not going to make him realize it. Right now, you are being clingy by texting him all of the time and probably just annoying him. If he wants space from you, then contacting him all of time is just going to make him want even more space. You must realize that you deserve to be treated better than this. I think that you should end all contact with him. If he contacts you then have a serious face to face conversation about why he is acting this way. If he pulls out the same bs excuses then put your foot down and tell him that you do not deserve to be treated this way, you will not put up with it and you think that it would be better if you 2 broke up. Sometimes guys want a relationship to end, but are too cowardly to end it, so they start acting like total douchebags so that the girl will break up with them. I know, it's pretty pathetic.
If you act confident, mature and don't allow him to treat you like crap then he will gain a bit more respect for you. In any case, even if you stop contacting him and he begs for you back, etc... Don't take him back. There are plenty of great guys out there that will not treat you this way. Don't put up with a douchebag! Good luck.
6Chances are, if he's fallen into and out of love within a 6 month span, he was never in love with you in the first place. Start thinking with your head and acting with a little restraint.
7I don't want to sound cliche, but this is totally "He's just not that into you" you should definately read the book (and if things go south with this relatinoship, it will give you soooo much insight to things). I've learned the hard way that when a guy wants you he will show it, and when he becomes "hard to get to", us girls will put up excuses for him, try harder than we should to give our last effort because that is what we do, eventhough in the end, he's just not that into you.
8Sounds like he's over you and is not man enough to be honest about his real feelings.
You can't force him to see things your way. Leave him alone, let it all go and learn how to live your life without him.
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