Hello,
Not sure i would get upset if it wasn't every time but if it was alot then yes I would.Is there something else getting in the way maybe if your thinking to much about the Big O then you might be blocking yourself.I like to please my guy and don't complain and I know he wants to please me doesn't always happen but then different things can come in the way at times. So maybe take a look at what might be getting in the way and try that

Hmmm, I say it depends on how long you take. I mean, if he quits after 5 minutes, I think that's BS. But if it's 30 minutes or something, I can see his point.

I was having a similar issue with my current guy, where I wasn't coming as often as I wanted to. It wasn't for lack of him trying though... he really was. But it takes me forever to come so I would eventually just tell him to stop.

Our solution? A clit vibrator that we use during sex and/or after to make sure I come. I was hesitant at first but after a couple experiences with it, all doubts are gone.

Being the sex goddess that you are, why don't you take responsibility for your own orgasm when with your partner? If he's not getting you there, then you need to give him better directions or take over.

BOO! Boo to the bf who says you don't get to orgasm every time. I agree with Pistil and Pop - use some toys, be more assertive with your bf - and make sure your bf agrees with your goal of achieving every time.

P.S. Gals, there's a product available from Good Vibrations (website) called "Zing Pleasure Cream" - definitely makes it easier to get where you're going....well, that's what I've heard.

To be totally honest, I think your bf sounds selfish. Perhaps you could stop sex just before he comes, then tell him oh you already came and you are tired. Honestly, try it? Then ask him how he feels. Maybe he will realize how frustrating it is for you!

So if his hand gets tired, like Pop said try using a toy. He could stimulate you with that or with that and his tongue before sex. He sounds young and fairly inexperienced when it comes to pleasing a woman. It is not that difficult if you get creative and find things that accelerate your orgasm. Or he needs to at least have the patience and take the time to get you there. Also, make sure that you always orgasm before intercourse if you can't during it. If I were you, I would suggest that you rub your clit the entire time that you are having intercourse as well. It will turn him on plus you will have a higher chance of orgasming during sex. Or you can put a vibrator on your clit during sex. I think the bigger problem here is that your partner does not seem to care that much about your pleasure. To me at this point in my life that would probably be a deal breaker in a relationship. That is just my opinion. Also, if you are going to stay with him, you 2 need to work on your communication skills. Like telling him that it is not ok with you that he does not care to make the effort to please you in bed. Then telling him exactly what he needs to do differently. Sometimes men need specific instructions. It is not embarrassing to you because your pleasure should be just as important as his. If he values you then he should realize that. Good luck.

I agree with the gals. Communication is key!
The first impression of mine was, hey, he'd better want to get me off. And like pop said, if he gave up after 5 minutes, the dude sounds selfish. But if it took you (under his ministrations), hours or an hour of no result--I can kind of understand the frustration and he probably thinks he can't 'help' you properly).
You probably need to give him pointers and a show-how, and in a very detailed, clear manner (I know it may not be too 'passionate' or 'romantic,' as long as it gets you off, hey! Then again, when you're masturbating yourself in front of him, he'd probably be so turned on and it can make an even better lovemaking session).
Incorporating the rabbit and other tools sound like a great, and adventurous idea for the bedroom too. Good luck.

There's a few things wrong and/or missing here (both situation and post):
1. Firstly, if you're such a sex goddess how are you not telling him what to do and what you like? If you masturbate, you'll know, so give him some directions woman!
2. I agree with what has been said before. If he's only trying for a couple minutes, then he's being selfish and you should talk to him about that. If it's taking him 30 minutes or so, you need to tell him what to do to make you get "the big O".
3. I think you put too much emphasis on orgasms. Sex is about a lot more than just that, like emotional connections and caring for your partner. If you just think about the end result, you're not going to reach it. If you think about the journey along the way, not only will the sex be amazing, you're also more likely to get there.

#3 is an excellent point.

Any guy who would tell you that women don't need to orgasm every time is a jerk. You shouldn't date jerks. You're not going to change him, or turn him into a person who wants to get you off every time. Good suggestion from Janine... stop a BJ after 5 minutes or so and tell him, "Sorry babe, men just can't get off every time." Except that this shouldn't be a petty argument, it just sounds to me like you don't mesh well in the sack.

Maybe you can't have an orgasm every time but you have every right for him to put s much effort as possible into it.

I agree with notinthemood. However if you still want to stay with him, have him watch you with your toys, then after your first O, have him try to match it. It's a lot of fun.

I don't orgasm every time either. I don't make it an issue or blame it on my husband. I don't want sex to become a mission or anything negative. I enjoy it no matter what and then grab a vibrator if it doesn't happen. It's not the end of the world for heaven sake. Every once in a while he doesn't climax either. Who cares. If he really holds out I can manage most of the time. To be honest when he starts to try like that and nothing is happening for me I'd rather just knock it off and switch to the vibrator and make it more about the sex and less about the O. I've had enough of that and not enough of real love in my lifetime.

Well, all people get tired once in while..and I'm not sure why you think that people need to come every single time they have sex. Sex isn't really about the orgasm (or at least I don't think it should be). But I think he needs to try a bit harder if you are not satisfied!