i say absolutely give him some space. it sounds like he was really sincere about the break-up and does care about you but just needs to figure things on his own. it will be really hard but i say keep the contact limited. maybe you are meant to be together but only time will tell. if you try and drag him to couples counseling and not give him his space, he will forever hold it against you.

As someone who has been there, first I want to say you have my empathy - you just want answers, to know what will happen, to feel better, to go back to the way it was. I am a bit older, and recently went through a break up after a very serious two year relationship. If I can offer some advice, it would be that if he wants a break, give it to him. And while I know it's hard to hear, he is not going to get to a place of knowing it's you he wants if he is not without you for a bit. It will be hard; I still cry a little almost everyday. Like a great girls, you deserve someone who wants to be with you as much as possible. He is not offering that right now. Try to be strong, protect yourself. You will get through the hard days and nights little by little, as I have. Respect him enough to give him what he wants, but more importantly respect yourself more by knowing that you deserve someone who after 2.5 years is planning your future together, not worrying about being single. It stinks, but there was a light at the end of the tunnel for me, and there will be for you too - it may not be him, but there will be someone.

Hey Girl....You may not like my advice....but don't wait....move on....stay friends....but change access to him...treat his as ONLY a friend. If he comes back....be ready to make a new decision whether YOU want him back! Men have a stupid way to either treating your cruel or telling you they need time....when they really want to be set free from the relationship. Good Luck!

Of course you can't go to couples counseling - you're not part of a couple. Kiddo, you need to deal with what is: he broke up with you so he could go out and bang around for six months. If he doesn't find someone he likes to nail more than he likes to nail you, he'll be back.

Stop romanticizing this situation as though his desire to get some strange is something over which he has no control. He's obviously a master of control - he's not only stringing you along, he's got you feeling sorry for him. Why are you willing to settle for this jag? If you believe you deserve more than the crumbs this loser is willing to throw your way, start acting like it. Stop taking his calls, emails, texts - and stop calling him your best friend (with friends like him, you sure don't need enemies). Go out and find someone who'll treat you with respect.

I agree with honey in that, yeah there is no point in going to couples counseling if you are not in a relationship. This might be hard to hear, but I think that he just considers you to be the wrong person for him. I think that if he meets a girl that he wants to marry, then he will get married. I think that in many ways, he did the right thing by breaking up with you. If marriage is part of your value system and you consider it important and he has no intention of being married then you 2 should not be together. Yes, I agree with honey. I think that he wants to sleep around because he basically told you that he doesn't want a relationship. This certainly does not mean that he intends to be celibate!!! I think that the best thing you can do is limit all contact, or even end all contact. The reasons are because it will be much more difficult for you to get over him if you are talking to him all the time. If you truly think that he just needs some time to think things through (which personally I do not think), then he will never realize how much he misses you or needs you in his life if he still has you there. But I wouldn't count on that happening. The best thing that you can do right now is to take care of yourself and realize that you deserve more than this. Take care and good luck.

If he doesn't find someone he likes to nail more than he likes to nail you, he'll be back."

HoneyKnows, this is some sage, and hilarious advice! So true... men wait for the right time, women wait for the right man. If a man is in a relationship with a girl he picked out before looking for a wife, he'll end it. He may be married 6 months later to a girl he met on the subway, but that's because he was looking for a different thing. You were not "marriage material" to him. You were "dating material", and now that he's having his mental meltdown, he wants to go date other people. Sadly, he probably wants to go looking for that marriage material girl. The only way to maintain your dignity at this point is to cut him off and demand only the best treatment for yourself. Do NOT tell him you'll wait for him. Do NOT tell him you still love him. Do NOT tell him he's perfect for you. Be an exclusive club with a VIP list (that he is NOT on) and let him know that if he gets out of line for any reason, he has to go to the end of the line and may never get in.

Look, you can rationalize this and explain away his behavior all you want, but it won't change one simple fact: he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.

You hate waiting, so don't wait. Do you really want to spend another 6 months on a guy who won't be with you? Of course not. Tell him you two need to make a clean break to learn how to live without each other. No Facebook, no texting, no calls. If he reaches out to you, ignore him. He has to see what life is truly like without you.

"Friends" route is a huge waste of time and they only end up burning you. I think he's basically at a point where he has lost sexual interest in you and is looking elsewhere to find it. There's a point when sexual interest will die down a bit in every relationship and if he doesn't love you enough to work through it or smart enough to know that, then he's not worth it. http://bit.ly/3qSruB

i agree give him space but keep yourself occupied or you will go crazy thinking about the situation. go out and have fun and who knows u might just find that guy who is ready for the commitments you are ready for. but u only truly know your situation, the guy he is, and your heart but a good and successful relationship is 50/50. You know what u need to do.