My husband is deployed (military) for a year and I am having trouble releasing my sexual frustrations. There are times when it just becomes so overwhelming and strong that I break down emotionally...to tears. I would NEVER cheat so there is no danger of that but it is effecting my mood and I'm not sure how to deal with it. I am sur there is not much I can do but can't hurt to ask.
Another issue that I am concerned about is low sex drive....I am afraid that with such a long seperation I wil lose my sex drive. I think I am going to have to shut myself down sexually (especially because of the first problem stated above) and I am afraid that I won't be able to turn it back on. I have been with my husband for 18 year (since age 12) and there were a couple of years where my sex drive was non-existent but I worked through it over the course of a year and our sex life was fantastic before he left. I can't afford to take a year to work through things again so I want to make sure it doesn't happen. Any adivce?
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Visit the Good Vibrations website, and get yourself a quality vibrator and/or a sex toy or two. There's no reason to let yourself atrophy because you're husband has been deployed. There's a lot you can do - you'll just have to do it for yourself for a while. Take care, hon.
1My response is similar, if you don't have a vibey, get one! Every women should have at least one; I certainly would not be without mine. I live a full an active sex life but own 3, including a waterproof one for the bath If you get the chance to look at before you buy, even better. Some are noisy others are more quiet. For me the noisy ones are akin to having a cement mixer in the bedroom so choose carefully if you can.
As for loss of sex drive, to be honest your post suggests just the opposite so I don't think you will have any worries there.
Take care and good luck. Drop me a PM if you would like to discuss further. x
2Agree with the other gals in re: to the vibrator.
As for the issue of lowered sex drive when your husband returns, cross that bridge when you come to it. There is no need to have anxiety right now about something so far down the road. And also, anxiety can kill your sex drive. Don't create a problem where there isn't one!
3I don't think that you should shut yourself down sexually or repress your desires. I think that you should masturbate a lot or whenever the urge strikes. How about some erotic literature and a good vibrator? You could write your husband sexy letters about what you want to do to him or how about phone sex? Get creative and satisfy yourself while he is away. Have fun.
4Absence makes the heart grow stronger. So when he gets back you'll be ready to explode. It will be a new chapter in your sexual history book.
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