Then kindly tell him that you will not take the run around anymore. Give him a time limit to give you a proper response. It has been a long time now.

It sounds as if he's not interested anymore and he just doesn't know how to tell you...OR...he may be wanting to keep you around so he won't be completely alone as he probably dates behind your back.

Either way, give him a time limit and if he keeps giving you the run around then just consider yourself as single. He cannot complain when he sees you with another man. He was the one that didn't call or communicate in any other manner.

hmm not enoguh information though to really know whats going on..do you know if hes dating other ppl? Is he going through something? Has he ever slept with others. Is he coming back to you after something else? OR is he legitimately busy and maybe you are trying to push for more than what it really is? It could be alot of things..
First guess is to agree with the previous comment, if he's just drifting back to you rather than making an effort, then yeah hes taking the situation for granted, and if you really think there's a chemistry between both of you , maybe step it up a bit and get busy too, have some excitement in your life and that will attract others to want to be with you..but hopefully him..
and let him know you might start dating other guys by a certain time if you still dont know where you stand..not as a threat but more like..why not move on. Lots of guys out there respond very well to a confident women when she knows what she does and doesnt put up with.

Well he kinda just put it in a way of hey im not sure if i feel for you the way you do for me. So last time we was together i said i couldnt do it anymore. I cried and said he should know by now if he feels for me. Needless to say he let me leave no calls no nothing. As far as i know there wasnt anyone else but he works out of town a lot so it wouldnt suprise me.

You're right. He should've known by now (in a year) if he feels for you or wants to be with you.

Sorry, rejection is hard to hear (his action showed it and he even said that he doesn't know how he feels for you). And being in denial usually is the next step you need to deal with (after being rejected, some will dwell in denial and basically overanalyze everything trying to justify excuses to reach out/pursue the guy or to just hang on and dwell).

Tsk. Again, sorry. I hope you can move on and stop hanging on to this man (I read the other post you made by the way).

Thats why people put post on here is for other people to read. I dont have a problem moving on. It's unfortuante when people ask for others advice they are often judged. I am quite content i just wanted another opinion on situation.Sometimes i question my moves and i dont want to.

It helps to understand what happened so you dont put yourself in the same situation again though.. so try and think about what signs he gave you along the way. If, all along you had a wierd feeling when you were around him..dont confuse that with butterflies like when someones in love..trust this feeling you have now.. of not being able to handle that kind of situation..and remember it so you can find a great guy next time, and avoid ones that make you question, wonder.. you want to be around people that leave you feeling respected, like you know whats going on, and a bit of mystery and attraction..not games, confusion, or other drama like that.

Yes, you're right. People put post here for other people to read. I read your opinion and that's why I'm giving you my opinion.
What's the judgment? I said that it's ok to be in denial especially after such rejection from a guy. Hanging on is normal, dwelling about it too for a period of time. Your ego is hurt and after a long time wanting to be with him and he rebuffs you, I think it's normal to have that 'denial' reaction.

So that's why I said, I hope you can move on and hope that you learn your lesson from this experience.

OP, I support both of Nevaeh's replies.

Of course people post on this board so that others can read those posts and respond. In your original post, you got lots and lots or responses, and they all gave you essentially the same opinion. That you posted a second time, again wondering what you should do about this relationship, does not convey contentment. Instead, it gives the appearance of someone who is not willing to accept the advice given. How you handle this situation is your decision, but you shouldn't expect people to turn a blind eye to your persistence in asking the same question simply because you didn't get the answer you wanted.

And for the record, there should be no expectation that people formulate opinions without judgment. As members of a civilized society, we pass judgment every single day - it's the very foundation of our civilization. Being "judgmental" is the fall-back dig leveled every time a person doesn't like someone else's opinion. Well that shiz doesn't work with me. As an intelligent, moral, sentient being, it's my job to judge.

Amen to that! And for the record, OP, most of us can give advice because we have at one time or another been in a similar situation. We learned the hard way, and we're just trying to help someone avoid a little bit of pain. I have been where you are... putting on a brave face and pretending that you can take the pain of in-limbo rejection. I know that it's a stupid thing to do and it will never get you what you want. You can't make a man love you or want to be with you. You can entice him for a while with free sex and favors, but the instant something he actually is interested in comes along, you're put out to pasture. That's how life is for those who don't hold out for what they want. Not WHO they want, but WHAT they want, which should be to be treated well.

I totally second neveah, honey, not in the mood etc.

Girl, you need to break up with this guy and then spend some quality time building up your self-worth.

Too much is hanging for you on this one guy. That's not a good sign.