Yes, I think you're wrong. You spent more time playing this little game with your husband (more time writing this Group Therapy post) than it would have taken to pick up the phone and make the freaking dinner reservation.

News flash: men typically are not as interested in celebrating events as women are - particularly dating anniversaries (especially when there's a wedding anniversary to celebrate as well). You already know this about your husband, which is why your started "dropping hints" about going to dinner a month ago. Why did you assume that he'd interpret your hints the way you wanted him to - particularly after nine years of him failing to plan events? If it was really that important to you that he make the reservation, why didn't you just lay it out for him and ask him to do it?

Or you could handle it the way you did. Unfortunately, you didn't get the reservation you wanted, you had an argument with your husband, you spoiled the celebration (your husband doesn't even want to celebrate your anniversary with you any longer), and all you're concerned with is making sure your husband takes the blame. Your husband is not an event planner, and you knew that when you married him. When you grow up and accept that, you'll no longer feel the need to play these pointless games.

It doesn't sound like it's going to be much of a celebration to me. OP, what you're doing is nagging. Perhaps some of those pregnancy hormones are to blame and you're looking for reasons to be upset with your husband? I know I do that sometimes during my time of the month. Anyway, I work with men all the time and I can promise you that you will be infinitely happier in life if you just come out and tell the men in your life what you want from them. Remember writing letters to Santa when you were a kid? Your parents weren't psychic, they read your Christmas list and listened to you tell them what you wanted. For the sake of your marriage and child, listen to Honey Knows and cut the crap. It's childish and not becoming of a woman who has been with her partner for 9 years.

And another thing... dating anniversary? I have a somewhat unspoken rule that I try to live by. If the event is non-traditional or stupid (Sweetest Day, Dating Anniversary, Valentines Day, Talk Like A Pirate Day) but I want to 'celebrate' anyway, I'll make him a card or some caramel corn or a nice dinner at home. I don't expect reciprocation, but I get a ton of gratitude and hugs and kisses. That makes me happy and I know I've made him happy... ta da! Happy us! You'll find that if you try my formula, it works much better. Good luck and I hope you can see the light!

I'm going to say that I understand.

Your due date is close and you're probably feeling more emotional than usual. But you seem to also know that he's not the type of guy who will call and make reservation (b/c you complain you've been doing this year after year), so lady, you can't expect him to 'change.' You know him well by now, either you accept that this is how he is (and be the one who calls to make arrangement) or you can continue getting upset and sulking year after year. The latter doesn't prove productive and will end up in screaming match..it seems.

Honestly, sometimes men (husbands) make mistake. He forgets. Everyone makes mistakes and forgets things btw (depending the situation).
It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or doesn't love you as much as you love him, it really doesn't mean that. And it sounds like it's an honest mistake, he may be as anxious, he may be busy too preparing for the baby alongside with you or with his work.
If both of you have many things on your plate, things like anniversary can easily slip through his minds. And most guys aren't wired like women
Anniversaries are like another day for them, again, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but he has different 'priority' than that (most likely) in his head.

My husband and I..eh..we don't even celebrate our anniversary officially. I even forget it a lot of the time. Things can get so hectic at times that sometimes when we do remember, we're not the type of people who are 'stuck on the date,' we'll go out when we do have the time to go out.

If you think now is 'bad' wait until you have the baby LOL. Seriously. You need to be able to take things easier too. If you want him to get you something for your anniversary, tell him that you want him to get you something because you already get him something. Yea yea the element of 'surprise' is kind of diminished but it also saves you from getting upset if he doesn't remember.

Good luck and hopefully your experience with child birth be a wonderful one.