so i have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, however the first 3 out of 5 months i had another bf.. i was cheating.i was having sex with the new guy n lost interest in the old one. this guy was soooo into me. i knew it was real though because he would tell my friends and even his friends how much he adored me and wantd to be with me. so i finally broke up with my boyfriend and started to date the new guy. at first everything was great we even started to say i love you. we would hang out all the time, we met each other parents , etc etc.. however a few weeks ago i went hrough his phone and saw texts from girls. one was him teling her he wants to "naked wrestle" and the other were to some other chick, i left his house pissed off as hell n didnt talk to to him when i got home or the next day like normal. when he finally asked whats wrong i told him. he said the naked wrestling was a joke n he wont talk to her ever again.. then the other chick, well he got married to her. it was his ex gf who was not a us citizen. he told her long before me that he would marry her for her to be legal. however they got married when were talking , having sex n i was still with my ex bf. but he says he doesnt like her anymore doesnt wanna be with her wants to be with me n only talks to her when necesary (document stuff).. he told me he loves me and only wants me n wont talk to them again.. bla bla.. so then everything was ok. now i keep thinking about that stuff and its all i think about . and its not good. if im not with him then all i htink he is doing is talking to chicks. then the other night we got in a fight bc he asked me to come over after work so i did. however before tht i tried callin n texting but his fone was off. so i started flipping out sending texts n then i juss drove to his house. rang the doorbell n no answer. 45 mins later i finally get a call from him saying he fell asleep n he was sorry bc his fone is a piece of crap,wich it is, but he said he didnt hear the doorbell. so then i started sending more crazy texts saying he doesnt like me any more n if he doesnt wanna be with me then he should let me no. and then i asked why he doesnt wanna have sex and he said because sometimes it smells. and it turns him off?!? really , doesnt every girl smell? sometimes mine can be bad though, wich i need to see a doctor for. but before we used to have sex like 3 times every time we saw eachtoehr. but then anyways so last night wen he got out of school i asked him to come over, n he said he went to his friends houes. and i started to flip out again bc after all the sh*t we argued about the day before he STILL did not want to see me. he wouldnt answer my calls when i called n sent me mean texts. saying im stressing him out, pissing him off. etc. and then i finally went to bed, he didnt send me any more texts ,
Do i flip out too much or is it normal for girls to do that when they think their man isnt like he used to be or spending time with u like he used to ?????
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I can't even read this entire post. You started off the relationship in an unhealthy manner and it looks like it's ending the same way. Karma is a b*tch. The only person I feel sorry for in this situation is your ex boyfriend.
1What a shame. How old are you really.
2Gosh...you're a cheater, you attracted a cheater, and now you've discovered that being cheated on kinda sucks, huh? (And you probably have an STI from all the cheating - hopefully, it's one they can cure.)
If you want to attract better men (you know, the kind who don't cheat, don't lie, mean what they say, act with integrity, etc.), I suggest you become a better woman. You know.....don't cheat, don't lie, act with integrity, stop screwing random guys, stop giving all your attention to this drama you've created, and start putting your energy into becoming a woman worthy of respect. Now get going.
3i suggest you wipe the slate clean with a new guy and DONT CHEAT ON HIM EVER. if you find someone new do him the courtesy of breaking up with him first.
Sounds to me like this relationship is unsavable. Sorry to give you the hard truth, but you can always fall in love again.
And go to the doctor already.
4So... you cheated on your ex with this guy, and now you won't even let the new guy TALK to other women? Wow... you're a fantastic person.
Seriously. Read what you just wrote.
Now break up with this guy and find another one that you WON'T cheat on.
5You're dating someone who is already married?! This sounds so fake. Honestly, the girls have given great advice... you're a jerk and Karma is having its way with you. Congratulations, I hope it's educational!
6so it's okay for you to cheat but not okay for him to send sexual text messages. are you being serious? I despise people as ignorant as you.
7by the way you must likely have a smelly vag cause you sleep around.
8I'm a strong believer in karma and you have just received it, Miss. I'm not trying to be mean but you could have easily have left the first relationship before jumping into the next one. You went behind the back of someone that loved you with another man. Now here you're in the same situation because I have a strange feeling this man is doing the same exact thing. You see, you put down the groundwork of how you want to be treated without even realizing it. Now he thinks it's acceptable behavior to cheat.
The best thing you can do is leave this guy right away. Apologize to your ex for hurting him. Take time to yourself and start a clean slate without infidelity.
9First of all, please please please go to the doctor right away and get tested for all STI's and other infections which could be the cause of your odor. This is not the kind of thing that you want to wait to find out about, when it affects your health. For example, if it is something like chlamydia, the longer you wait to get treated, the higher chance that you could become infertile. Second of all, always, always use condoms. Every single time that you have sex, regardless of if you are on the pill or not. This will greatly reduce your chance of getting infections such as bacterial vaginosis, and STI's. Second of all, I find it not surprising that you cheated on your bf and now you suspect him of the same. I don't know if you told him about the other guy or not, but he probably sensed his presence even if you never told him. I agree with the last poster, you put the groundwork of how you want to be treated down early on in this relationship. Obviously this relationship is not headed for anywhere good. I think it is time for you to spend some time single and to figure out why you cheated and why you chose a guy that cheats. Trust is an integral part of any relationship that lasts for the long term. If you are not a trustworthy person, you will not attract trustworthy men. I think just take a break from guys altogether, get your body healthy and decide what you want in a relationship. When you are loyal to one man, it is more likely that he will be loyal to you. Good luck..
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