Every relationship fails until one doesn't. Don't stop trying just because you dated one person who can't tell the difference between being lovesick and being in love.

The guys that only want you when they can't have you are not the right men for you. A man that truly loves you will want you all of the time, he will be happy just to have you in his life. I am not saying that you have to put your whole heart on the line right away. You have to maintain your independence, especially in the beginning of a relationship because it shows a guy that you don't need him but you could make each other happy if he is lucky enough to get you. My ex was the way you describe, when he had me he took me for granted but if we broke up he would beg for me back. A person like that doesn't truly deserve you. My fiance right now loves me all of time, when we go through hard times he tries to be there for me as much as he can and work on the relationship. I think it is ok to play some games in the beginning or maintain a bit of distance until he shows you that he is good enough for you. Just remember that you have to go through some heart breaks and relationships in order to learn what kind of guy you need. It also makes it easier to spot the good ones when they come around. You will meet the right one eventually, in the meantime work on making yourself happy, have new experiences and laugh a lot. Then when a good guy comes along, he will realize how great you are. Don't lose hope! Good luck.

Yes, your right... I dont want to change who i am to get someone to like me. I guess im tired of the childish games that come along with dating.. It gets old!

You know why it may seem the ones who don't care are the ones who have things work out? Maybe it is because they are the ones who sit back and let it happen instead of trying to force things, you know? I agree with you completely that the games are ridiculous, why can't people just say what they mean and mean what they say? But I suppose people who care too much (and this has been me 99% of the time) are the ones who don't get the relationships that work out, probably because they are trying to force things either too early or trying to force things that aren't meant to be.

Keep the faith, if you give it over to God, He will make sure things work out for you, I promise

I hope so... I just know im very tired of getting the "im not sure what i want" when i give more then 100%. The last 2 girlfriends he had he complained about they never did this or that but when it comes down to it they seem to be attracted to that type of girl..

So, if you're tired of giving 100% to men who don't reciprocate, does that mean you're ready to stop doing it? You don't have to stop taking chances on love and relationships - you have to start picking better men to take chances with. Good luck.

agreed. i always tell my boyfriend he doesnt care, he says he does but who knows.. i hate being emotional

Yes, someone can say they care all they want ... actions speaks louder then words..

Your entire story is IDENTICAL to mine. I was sad when I read it because I realized that mine was a game like yours. I left him over 2 months ago because I couldn't deal with him being on and off with his feelings for me anymore. I stayed because he kind of put the blame on me for the way he was. I was blinded by everything because I had trusted him. That's why I believed in him. Even now, it's hard to get over it because I am realizing more and more things about my relationship that I didn't see. But it's a lesson to be learned. Trust your instinct and your brain. I should have listened to my instinct about him.

I don't think those type of men know what they really want. They don't even know when something is great even when it's staring at them in the face. I understand if the relationship didn't work out, but he could at least treated you better and not like crap. And I agree with what Janine says. I always tend to forget about that. I kept on thinking it was my fault that I wasn't a certain way. They should "take me as I am, or have nothing at all." That's a lyric from a Mary J. Blige song.

I hope you moved on from the douche bag as I have.