Wait... I'm confused. Match.com charged something to your phone bill and you didn't do it, but he got mad when you asked if he did it? And his mother is staying with his ex... hmm. I don't really know what to tell you about this situation, except that it probably won't last.

no is inphomatch.com i assumed it was match.com its the chain messages that ppl send to you that are with sound and stupid pictures im sure we have all gotten them... His mom is visiting from NY and since he does have children she wants to see them and cut the cost of a hotel room here for a week...

Another thing... why do you have phones together already if you've only been dating 6 months? Hun, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this man isn't relationship material. It is not acceptable for him to sleep over at his ex's house. Of course not! How would he feel if you slept over with an ex because you were visiting his town and hotels were expensive? He's probably toying with your mind... this is emotional warfare. Dump him now, or wait 6 months and he'll probably dump you first. This isn't a healthy, adult relationship.

Here's the situation: he has a baby mama, and a mother who wants to see her grandchildren. You need to understand that his mother is motivated to maintain a cordial relationship with his ex, because his ex has custody of the kids. If grandma wants easy access to those kids, she's gonna keep the ex happy. (Clearly, she could have stayed at her son's house, but she chose to stay with the ex instead.) I wouldn't be surprised if grandma was hopeful her son and the baby mama would get back together - that would probably make things easier for her and the twins.

In addition to that, yes - he's manipulating you - and you're giving him the response he wants: you're off-balance, insecure, and eager to please. Of course even though you claim you trust him, you obviously don't. Face it - when you saw an unfamiliar charge on your phone bill, your immediate response was to accuse him. That response is not indicative of trust.

So you don't trust him, you're insecure, immature and easily manipulated; he's an adept manipulator, immature and irresponsible (clearly, he's not quite up to shouldering the responsibility of oh, I don't know....not getting women pregnant that he doesn't want to marry). Oh, and he's got the baby mama, and the grandma situation.

So, what is it again that you find so attractive about this guy?

WHAT?!? There is no reason in the world why he should spend the night with his ex. You are asking to be cheated on. I agree with notinthemood..kick him to the curb.

A night with an ex. No way. Think it would be OK with him if you spent the nigh with an ex while he's away? That wouldn't fly with me. Shouldn't fly with anyone. I would tell him it would be a cold day in hell he comes back through my door.

didnt even read your post just saw the title, HELLL f*ckEN NO

Yep, sounds like CRAZY MAKING to me. My X-husband was famous for that. WHAT are you talking about??? Me, on Match.com??? Tell him to get stepping! The mother at the X's with the girls? Well, nothing wrong with that, but the rest, FORGET it.