you will end up getting hurt by this guy .you are his miss right now and he will find some one else when he does not want u no more

You're going to end up hurt, and right now you're doing no good essentially being "the other woman". The man has a kid, he should stop trying to "woo" you and focus on helping his family rather than hurting them.

Get out of this situation quick.

So... you're cheating on your boyfriend and want to know why this guy, who is also a cheater, isn't acting like a "typical" friend-with-bennies? I have some insight for you... because this isn't your usual friend-with-benefits situation... this is, however, your usual "cheaters" scenario, so he's acting just like that. Don't believe a word he says, and stop lying. Your boyfriend deserves better than you, so let him go. Then see if this guy leaves his gf and kid so you two can be free to kiss and date one another in the open. Here's a hint... that won't happen. You're nothing but a piece on the side to him, and that's why he doesn't want you to "fall in love". He doesn't want you. He won't leave the gf for you and you will end up wrecking your life and everyone in it if you continue down this path. Grow a conscience and start behaving like a respectable woman, not some silly, desperate girl.

You really need to get yourself together. Stop cheating/sleeping around, and begin to respect yourself more. You are doing nothing but hurting yourself mentally and physically. And we all know what type of reputations women like you get.

Respect yourself, be honest to the people around you, and just stop acting so irresponsible.

Ditto above posters! You nailed it...

are you sure that you're older? i really thought this was a gag - you're a woman who's keeping herself on a string - cut the cord mama,the little boy is playing you. i'm away from this.

Hey that's a cute running pup *Gamestomper*

Oh the insanity.

You're basically pissing at the well where you get your drink from. But that's your choice.

Leave your bf out of this and break up with him, hmm?

Oh another thing, take what he/assistant manager says literally. Men don't have twist and turn of word play. Jeez. He doesn't want you to fall in love because he wants to just have SEX with you without attachment, do you get that part? Ok. Which means he's not breaking up with his gf and basically his family (b/c he's got a kid with her and they live together, right--so they are a FAMILY).
Don't flatter yourself too much, if you're not there, he'd probably find another warm body to have sex with outside his family life.

If you want more from him, ask him to dump his gf asap, move them out of his place and break it off with your bf and date openly.

Nevaeh, you are right.

what is up with all the cheaters on the site? it kinda makes me sick to my stomach. are women really this insecure now a days that they need attention from everyone? stop complaining about this messed up situation and take a look at yourself in the mirror.

I just have to add...did I miss the examples of wooing? Cause all I read is that he asks you to run his errands, doesn't take you out, has paid you one cheap compliment (about taking you somewhere that he'll clearly never take you because y'all have to sneak around)...then makes out with you on the job. Since when does that constitute wooing?

And for you to extrapolate his feeble attempt at a no-strings-attached hook-up into him having deep feelings for you...what are you thinking?! He wants to get some strange dear, and you're convenient. Do yourself a favor - send him home to his baby mama and the child her refuses to legitimize - he should be devoting his free time to them.

What more do you need to know???He's a sleazeball who is cheating on his live in girlfriend and the mother of his child.....with you.

Seriously it's time to wakeup..... what part of he's using the hell out of you and you're allowing it to happen aren't you getting.

silly, silly child. He's investing. That's what it's called, he's telling you all these things(which ins't really much actually) so that you'll be dumb enough to give it up. You can trust that if it wasn't you, it'd be another girl.

Why do you want a friend with benefits when you have a boyfriend? Are you that bored, insecure, desperate for attention that you would hurt your boyfriend by having a relationship with a cheating tool? The guy has a kid...don't either of you have any sense of right and wrong at all?

Agree with the others...let your boyfriend go find someone else who appreciates him. The work guy is just a player and a douche who only wants to f@ck you, please don't delude yourself that he wants anything more than that.

If you decide to have a "relationship" with him, you deserve what you get in spades, and it won't end well...trust me.

I agree with most of the above comments, particularly notinthemood. So....you have a bf and he has a gf with a child but you want to know what he really thinks of you??? He is 'wooing' you and saying all of the things that you want to hear because he wants sex with someone other than his gf. This does not mean that he will leave his gf for you, it does not mean that he even truly likes you, just that he wants sex from you. I don't understand why you would even consider for a moment getting involved with a man who has a gf and a child and when you also have a bf. Yeah, he is saying that he doesn't want you to fall in love with him because he has no intention of ever leaving his gf for you, he just wants an affair without any emotional attachments. There are not many women that would even consider dating a man in this situation, but I guess he figures that you are naive enough to believe his bulls*it. No, he is not afraid he will fall for you. He is probably a serial cheater and has done this many times before. When he is done fuc*ing you, he wants a clean break and that is what he means when he says that. I think that you need to revaluate the relationship that you are in, because clearly you are not commited to your bf. If you want to have some casual sex, at least have the common decency to do so with a man who is single!!!!!!!!!!!

I just wanted to also add that yeah, there isn't a chance in hell that he actually told his mom about you. He would never risk his current relationship for you (judging by the fact that he refuses to take you anywhere). He just said that so that you would start to feel trust/romantic feelings towards him and you would be more likely to put out. Sorry, but that is what I honestly think. This guy knows all the right things to say to get what he wants. Have some respect for yourself, your bf, his gf and child and walk away and please start job hunting.