What is your rush? If it is as you say and you feel it's meant to be, it will be. I wouldn't put much weight into his mom's feeling's toward you, it isn't his mom that your seeking a commitment from.
I think if you just chill and not rush it, you'll be enjoying yourself and thats what it's all about.

What is your rush? If it is as you say and you feel it's meant to be, it will be. I wouldn't put much weight into his mom's feeling's toward you, it isn't his mom that your seeking a commitment from.
I think if you just chill and not rush it, you'll be enjoying yourself and that's what it's all about.

Yes, you made a mistake moving in with him.

Here's the deal on co-habitation: most of the time when a couple decides to live together (rather than getting married or engaged), it's because one member of the couple wants to be married, and one member doesn't. The person who wants to be married figures they'll convince the person who doesn't want to be married how great marriage would be by living together. But that's a faulty premise: when you are simply co-habitating, there's no commitment. So all the best parts of marriage do not exist when you're living together: like being able to plan a future together; like knowing that person is going to be there with you to raise your children; like security.

You know you're missing those things - that's why you're asking these questions. That's why you're spending your time over-analyzing every little comment your bf makes to try to see which way the wind is blowing. That's why you spend so much energy proving to your bf what a great catch you are (and I'm sure you are).

If I were you, I'd move out. I'm not suggesting you break up with the guy, just correct the error you made when you moved in with him. I'm not suggesting you manipulate him into an engagement by threatening to move out, either. You've made yourself too available, kiddo, and you could waste years of your life pretending to be married to this guy, only to find out he'll never commit to you. Don't do that to yourself - you're worth a ring and a lifetime commitment, so don't sell yourself short. Good luck.

What's done is done. Why stress yourself thinking whether or not it was a mistake to move in with him?

Take your time and enjoy what you have right now and what's going on with the both of you. You don't want to pressure him into popping the question. He should do it because he feels he's ready. You're so young right now as well. Even though his parents got married really young doesn't mean you need to too. You've liked him for 5 years but you have only been dating for a year and a half. That's not a very long time. Give him some time. When he's ready he'll ask. He most likely knows you are a good catch, otherwise he wouldn't be with you. Let things be, he'll ask when he asks.

HoneyKnows said it best. I hope you truly take her advice and/or just stop overanalyzing everything and enjoy yourselves. You are only 24 yrs old? I would do like Honey says and move out for awhile, but keep your relationship going, and it may become stronger!

If it is meant to be, it WILL be...

Good luck.

You've had a "thing" for him for 5 years and have been together for a year and a half? Sounds like you are panicking, because you probably were obsessive about him before,and now that you have him, you're scared of losing him.

Well, keep doing just what you're doing and that is going to happen. You are clearly much more into him than he is into you, he definitely knows it, and you are going to blow it unless you chill. You especially need to leave his family out of it...who gives a sh!t if his parents were married practically out of high school and they think you walk on water? I can tell you....NO ONE, especially your boyfriend. Your boyfriend is not his parents, so just let THAT one go.

I personally think it was a mistake for you to move in with him, but that is just me...If I wanted to be married, would never do it unless I was engaged and had a date set. If you just want to be with him and have fun and play house, different story, but that isn't what you want.

The bottom line is this...he doesn't want to get married right now. He has told you that. PERIOD. No amount of obsessing and ruminating on your part will change that, nor is there anything you can do to convince him otherwise. If your goal simply is to be married right now, he is not your guy. If you are willing to wait for him to "come through", he may eventually, but that is a big gamble.

You ultimately have to decide how many years of your life you are willing to wait for something that might not ever happen, and decide if he is worth that risk and the potential lost time.

Good Luck.

I think that you ultimately have to decide if being married is more important to you than being with this man. If your goal is just to get married, than you may be able to find another man that is ready for that soon. If your goal is to be with the man you love, then stay with him. You can't change his mind about this issue or put pressure onto him, it will just backfire. It could be the case that marriage is not an important priority for him in his life right now. Some people do not value the concept of marriage in general. Probably when some of his friends start to get married, he'll realize that it might be right for him too. It just depends on how long you are willing to wait, and again if you just want to be married or you want to be with this guy. If the concept of marriage in itself is more important than who you marry, then you need to leave him and find someone more marriage minded. Good luck.