I would speak to their boyfriends and tell them that the girls are already suspicious and you don't want to be in the middle (knowing the truth) so they should come clean before they weasle the truth out of you. That way, you're at least giving them the chance to tell the truth.

Here's the thing though - the girls should be mad that their boyfriends lied, but .. to break up with someone you love because they went with the crowd and watched girls dance? It's not like they cheated on you.. idk, just my opinion.

I would confront the boys, tell them you know and the girls are very suspicious. Tell them their best chances are to come clean themselves or you will have to.
Yeah, I am not sure if this is conservative or religious, but seems kind of harsh. I don't know their relationships or lifestyle so I won't judge, but the guys should have known they could get caught in a big lie.
Good luck!

I agree- you or you bf needs to tell the guys that their girls are suspicious and you know they are going to grill you (although to do it on the wedding day seems very weird- they have to know that if their suspicions are confirmed that it will ruin the whole day) and that you dont feel that you can lie to them, so they had better come clean themselves.

You shouldnt be put in the middle of this- not to mention that the girls will be pissed that you knew and waited until confronted to tell them, and the guys are going to be pissed that you ratted them out- you could lose a lot of friends- its childish, but its true. I do think the girls are overreacting- I dont think going to the strip club is a big deal- my husband didnt go to a strip club during his bachelor party- but it wouldnt have bothered me if he had- but it sucks that the guys felt like they had to lie.

Just play dumb, especially if they ask you during the wedding.

Nothing good can come from you giving them the news.

Make your boyfriend- yes make HIM- talk to his buddies and freak them out- say the girls are totally on to them and will most definitely make a seen at the wedding. He has got to just lay it on thick for your sake, so you won't end up in the middle of this. It's the lest he can do since he tried to lie

You seem to have taken it well, don't you think the others might as well?

sorry *scene* not *seeen*

First of all. You wouldn't be responsible for ruining anything. The truth is always your best bet and it is their fault for being dishonest with their girlfriends.

Choosing to be quiet when confronted by your friends could cause you to end up losing them. And why would they wait to the wedding day to confront you anyway.

Everyone needs to come clean and it should be the guys. You need to speak with them and tell them to be honest with their girlfriends. They shouldn't put you in that kind of a predicament.

First of all. You wouldn't be responsible for ruining anything. The truth is always your best bet and it is their fault for being dishonest with their girlfriends.

Choosing to be quiet when confronted by your friends could cause you to end up losing them. And why would they wait to the wedding day to confront you anyway.

Everyone needs to come clean and it should be the guys. You need to speak with them and tell them to be honest with their girlfriends. They shouldn't put you in that kind of a predicament.

It is NOT your responsibilty to be the ones to tell the bridesmaids that their guys went to a stripclub. OF COURSE they went to a stripclub instead of camping! If the girls are wondering what their guys really did, then they need to ask THEM instead of you.

If they ask you on the day of the wedding simply state "I don't feel this is the time or place to focus on this matter. We need to focus on (bride's name) big day." If you DO talk about it the day of the wedding, you really want to be the one to cause all that drama on your friends day with pictures of people pissed off and fighting?

Bottom line is the guys MADE their own choice to go to a strip club and lie to their girls - it is their problem, not yours. Stay out of it.

I would feel obligated to tell my friends the truth, especially if I knew they cared about it that much. I would personally have a problem with my boyfriend going to a strip club, although I don't think I would break up with him for it. But I know I'd be upset.

I agree with those who said you should give the guys a chance to confess to their girlfriends themselves. You shouldn't lie to your friends, as I'm sure you'd want your friends to be honest with you as well.

What bloody idiots. Of course they were going to get caught! It's absolutely not up to you to save or destroy these relationships. That's their deal, they made the decision to lie about it. Talk to the boys and tell them that you will give them a couple of days grace to come clean to their girls, otherwise you tell them, and you wont lie if asked before then. Before the wedding would probably be best, you dont want to wreck your friends wedding by a big scene on the day.

deny, deny, deny,

what, are you a cookie? will you crumble? it sounds like you are the only one who isn't a total square (except the boyfriends and strippers of course - they know how to get down)

what is a little largely nude frotage and an exchange of cash in the champagne room amongst complete strangers? none of anyone's damn business that's what.

i'm calling shenanigans. how on earth would you know that this group of girls has banded together to question you, and that they plan on doing it on your friend's big day?? why on earth wouldn't they do it sooner? do they have a desire to ruin a wedding? i sincerely doubt it.

if you're just wondering if you should spill the beans, the answer is no. absolutely not. their relationships and what they share with one another is none of your business, and if you're queried directly by one of them or a group of them your response should be "they went camping." don't screw yourself out of friends, your friends out of relationships, and your boyfriend out of his good standing with his friends. the end.

I hate lying. These boys make me suspicious. I'm not passing judgements on their strip club escapades, but it seems that either one of two things is going on here: a) these boys have no problem lying to their girlfriends, or b) they really really love strip clubs. If they know how their girlfriends feel about strip clubs, then their attendance means they either don't have much respect for their girlfriends and their feelings, or they enjoy going to strip clubs more than they enjoy making their girlfriends feel comfortable and secure. Either way, I don't think you have any obligation to preserve these relationships. They don't sound entirely healthy.

That being said, I agree with all the posters who said tell the boys what you know, and that you won't lie if the girls confront you. If you're more comfortable conveying this message through your boyfriend, that will work too. And if the girls are self-centered enough to confront you on the wedding day, I would suggest telling them that you will reveal what you know at the end of the day, because you don't want to spoil the wedding. Just be honest, be considerate, and don't feel guilty for telling the truth.

you shouldn't be the one who breaks it to them when they ask because it's not your fault. you shouldn't feel bad for something that you didn't do. i agree with everybody else, in that, you should tell your boyfriend to have a chat with his friends and get them to spit up the truth. first off, the biggie here to me, is not the strip club (even though, personally, it would bother me), the biggie is that they LIED. and they need to come clean about that. and also, understand the possible consequences for their actions.