I am 5 months pregnant and need to move out of my apartment. I have 2 roommates and we live in a "bachelorette pad" that isn't conducive for a child. I can afford to get my own apartment and have been leaning towards doing that. I am having doubts because my boyfriend/father wants me to live with him. To be honest I do not feel he is the man for me and am only in the relationship right now for support. Others tell me I should live with him to make things easier and its scaring me... that I wont be able to do it on my own. Will I have post pardum, will it be more expensive then I think, will I feel lonely?? But then I say to myself I do not want to live with a man I can hardly stand right now and do not love, but maybe that's just the pregnancy. I am so annoyed that I crave to live alone right now. I must sound like a basket case but I can't decided and I am losing sleep and feel anxiety over it. Any advice?
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1This is a tough situation. I would say to try to find an apartment on your own. Are your parents aware/supportive of this baby? I don't know your situation, but I would ask for their advice. They are you're parents and know a lot (unfortunately...). If you don't have a good relationship with your parents I would say to move in to an apartment by yourself or with a friend that you really trust and does not mind living with a baby. (Those midnight temper-tantrums will be tough for both you and her..)
I would explain to your bf that you need your space right now. Maybe moving to an area that is close to him will allow him to have time to be with the baby. Allow him to help pick out nursery colors, the crib and things like that. Although you may not like him at the moment, he still is the baby's daddy, and he wants to help, you're really lucky in that situation...
I hope everything works out for you! I couldn't imagine being in your situation, you're one strong woman and give you a lot of props for hanging in there
2Dont move in with him, it wont make it easier it will make it awkward and painful. You can do it by yourself, thousands of women do it every year! It's good that you're keeping a good relationship with the father but at some point you're going to have to tell him you dont feel the same about him as he does about you.
Your baby is now the most important person in your life, you need to do whats best for him/her not what everyone else thinks it best for you. Dont worry, as long as you cna afford it and you have some support from friends/family then you will be fine.
Good luck!
3Do what's best for you and the baby, and trust your gut - live alone! There is no reason at all you should have the added stress of living with someone you don't love.
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