My cousin is getting married in two weeks and asked me to be her "maid of honor" which I must admit I was not really all that happy about. (but I didn't show it!) She doesn't really have any other friends besides three girls she just recently met in nursing school. I have been in more than my fair share of weddings, and although it is always an honor, it is also always expensive. Even though I am the maid of honor, my cousin has managed to exclude me from practically everything. She gave me a whole day's notice before we were to get fitted for our dresses, and her other "maids" were less than friendly to me. She called for me to look/pick out jewelry when she and the other three were already at the mall making their purchases. I know as MOH I'm supposed to plan the shower and bachelorette party. She had already had two showers (one of which I was not invited to). The other shower fell on the weekend I had just broken up with my boyfriend of two years, and needless to say I did not feel up to par and did not go. However, I did send a gift and my best wishes. I have been asking if my cousin if she wanted a bachelorette party or some type of get-together for her girls for months. She never gave me any idea of a date or time. I can't plan things if I do not know her schedule or her friends schedules, nor can I read her mind. I asked her again recently about what she wanted to do about the bachelorette party. She said that she and the other bridesmaids had decided to go out of town for a weekend. She did not tell me when and gave me no other details.  A few days later, I received a text message (not intended for me, supposedly) about ordering shirts for the party. I sent her a message back saying I didn't know what she was talking about. She replied, saying that she and the other bridesmaids were ordering shirts for the bachelorette party and her last text was not meant for me (oops!)  And yet, she still did not give me any other details. The bachelorette party is this weekend, and I still know nothing about it. I have been working my butt off on a slideshow DVD of she and her soon-to-be hubby to show at the ceremony. I have been asking for pictures and music since JUNE, and just got pictures about a week ago (wedding is Labor Day weekend). She has also changed her mind on the songs more than a few times. I am getting very frustrated. I avoid confrontation at all costs, but I am furious about the way I am being treated. Why would she ask me to be her MOH if she is not going to include me in anything?  What should I do? I am very hurt and feel extremely used.