Ohhhh, man. Maybe you should just tell him the truth. Tell him what happened at the party, that he pushed you into the wall and that he kissed you twice and you had to run away. Now he won't leave you alone, and you've told him to back off. But make it clear that he's not allowed to kill anyone. You sound like you could use some help in getting the guy to back off, and if anyone could shut him down it's your husband. That guy sounds like a real predator. You don't push people into walls.

Not to mention it sounds like he's practically stalking you. Creepy.

I think you definitely need to tell your husband. This guy is obviously NOT getting the hint...tell your husband very calmly and tell him not to over reeact...let him know that he can't hurt him or let your cousin know of what is going on. If your husband approaches this guy on the DL, I'm sure he will back off...just knowing that it's unwanted from you and the threat from your husband will surely scare him away (I hope). Good luck and I'm so sorry that you have to go through this

Wow.. That is crazy. I would tell him you are in love with your husband and have no plans of leaving your husband or continuing with him.

In my case I would have ran out of the room screaming what just happened to call the creep out, but that is just me. I can't keep a secret escpecially something like that from my husband. I get the feeling you feel guilty for kissing back, but sometimes it is just better to own up to your mistakes. It usually comes out at some point anyway.

tell your husband even if its just so you all as a couple can avoid being at events with this creep. you also need to be honest with him about everything.

Oh wow. This is NOT good. You need to tell your husband. If you keep this from him, it could be taken as you are enjoying the attention this guy is giving you. Do not want it to look bad on your part. Tell your husband how you pushed him away, how he keeps calling you and trying to make advances. Tell him you have already tried to tell this guy to leave you alone and he won't listen. Your husband may be able to stand by your side at the next family event or even take this guy to the side and give him a a good 'shake up' and remind him that you are HIS wife and you are to be respected. Men are very possive about their things - it is a very caveman like thing. Your husband will not allow his guy to keep coming after you. This guy has the wrong idea and thinks he can get away with acting like this. It is wrong!

And the worse part is you are going to have to tell your cousin. I think telling her would be worse than telling your husband. Bottom line is you need to nip this in the butt A.S.A.P! Don't wait any longer!

Good Luck. Let us know what happenes!

Hmmm, I dont know about this. The guy seems kinda crazy. If you do tell your husband do you think the guy would try to flip the whole situation on you & make it seem like you were into it? Ive been in a situation where the guy LIED on ME & said I was down with what he was trying to do! So this is a sticky situation.

i agree with lexo that he might flip the script and make you look guilty. it sounds like you're being too nice to him also. if he calls you at work you need to yell "don't f$$%#ing call me ever again" and he corners you in a room again, you need to be angry and shove him in the face. don't EVER be nice to him again. think for a minute and get MAD at how ruined your life or your cousin's life would be. i know these guys. they take any niceness as a clue that they might have a chance to get into bed with you. what he's doing to your cousin is wrong so unless you want the drama, get hostile towards him fast. also remember, that he may have turned you on, but if he's stepping out so wrong and strong on your cousin, he'll end up doing something wrong to you too, and then you'll feel even worse...
hope it's not too late!

OMG tell your husband... but killing is not allowed. And since this is your cousin's husband, you may think about telling her as well. If this guy is doing it to you, chances are he may be/ will be doing it to someome else. Besides, you don't want your cousin to think that you invited him. So telling her and your husband is probably the way to go now. Just don't wait any longer

wow...that's TOTALLY over the line. you need to put a stop to it immediately, before it goes any furthur or comes out another way.

You need to tell your husband before it gets too far gone.. If you let it continue and not say anything it doesn't look good for you and the situation could be flipped..

Explain to your husband that originally you said nothing probably because you thought he was inebriated. But you've been noticing his behavior hasn't lessened and you're worried.

If you and your husband are as tightly bonded as you say.. He should be able to come through for you.. and help you get through this..

Don't be a spineless jellyfish with the "I don't want to tear the family apart" because this is an extremely bad reason for not speaking up.. we're talking about your saftey, as well as any other girl he gets his eye on.. If the family cannot accept the facts then that's their issue to deal with..

But you definitely need to let your hubby know, that way he can understand where you're coming from and why you may not want to attend family gatherings.. or you're being 'rude'

Tell your husband NOW! This man sounds crazy and violent and not about to let up. How far are you going to let him go- what if he is even more drunk next time and you guys are alone. Don't be worried about the family- your hausband is your family and that's all you need if no one else will understand. Don't hide this from your husband any longer- be safe!

You sort of let this guy think he might be able to open a door with you if he's persistent when you lingered on that kiss. But now you can make it clear to him that his calling and approaching you is completely unacceptable, and you can do that in several ways.

Firstly, you don't even engage in a telephone conversation with him. Don't take his calls if you see it's him calling. If you don't know it's him and then you hear his voice, just hang up on him. Don't even say anything. Just hang up.

Secondly, don't ever be alone with him in a room. Ever.

Thirdly, tell him if he continues to call you or bother, you'll tell your husband what happened.

Good Luck!

first thing to do is to tell your husband. let him know the situation.
if your husband walks in the room and sees the two of you together doing anything suspicious i feel that he'd take your side (hello, that's why he's your hubby!) but why put a strain on yourself? tell him now, and i'm sure if he doesn't approach the guy he'll at least stay in the room.
what i think would be perfect is if your husband is aware of the situation and leaves the room, waits for the guy to pounce and calls him on it.

First off, be honest with your husband and tell him. Second, you should sit your cousin down also and tell her. She does have the right to know. If he's stalking you, get a restraining order pronto! I hope this helps you.

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It sounds like you haven't said "no" like you mean it yet. A part of you is interested (or at least excited in that moment) or you wouldn't have kissed him back. Now that you are back in your right mind, next time he tries, yell, and I mean YELL. "I have no interest in you. This is never going to happen. Approach me again and I'm telling my husband." Make it absolutely clear. When men get what they consider mixed signals, they think there's a chance. Be firm and don't worry about making a scene, we ladies are always so terrified of that.

If he still doesn't let up, you have to tell your husband and let the chips fall where they may. This isn't your fault. I think if your husband and his wife know what he's been doing, you'll never see him again.

Oh, you need to nip this in the bud. It could get really ugly. I would go to your husband first and make sure you can settle him down and discuss with him what your next steps are. You cannot hide this, it could destroy your family. What a jerk ! But do not allow him to touch you or kiss you again. Any little bit you give him, he will take advantage of.

Do you have an update? Did you tell him to leave you alone or you'd tell your husband & his wife? I would think the threat would be enough.

I agree with Irish. It sounds as if you may have gave this guy false hope and haven't set him straight. Before I would go hurting a bunch of people I would talk to the guy and tell him that there is no chance for him and that if he continues to carry on that you will have no choice but to go to his wife and your husband. Wow! You are definitely between a rock and a hard place.