my boyfriend of two years now and me were having a conversation the other day and somehow threesomes got brought up. I said how i would never ever do them and how they were gross, he said that he thinks it would be cool. When i asked why he said its "just every guys fantacy and just because he thinks it would be cool to do doesnt mean he would do it or make me do it". Now were only eighteen but we were each others first sex partners and I'm really worried that he will want to do this, he says he wont make me but im scared he will cheat because of this. Is this really an issue i shoudl worry about or is it really just a guy thing and i should trust that he really was just thinking and not going to pursue it.??? please help
~Scared Girlfriend
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Just a P.S please no rude comments this is an actual issue I'm worried about so please be nice.
1I wouldn't worry about it. I do think it is pretty much every guy's fantasy.. I don't know many who wouldn't be open to it.
He didn't say he was going to do it, but just thought it would be cool. I think you are just overreacting.
2yeah i wouldnt worry either...it is a very common fantasy for guys. as long as he's not actually saying things about specific girls and it's just an abstract fantasy it's nothing to worry about. if you're worried that because you dont want to fulfill this particular fantasy with him he isn't going to be satisfied with you, maybe try something else new that he wants to do that you ARE comfortable with.
3It's just what all guys say. Don't worry. Especially since if he pisses you off he will have to find two girls instead of one.
4That's a very common fantasy for men. Nothing to be worried about and he's not even asking you to do it anyway, and sometimes for guys, the real thing ended up not as 'fun' as their fantasy LOL (my ex actually told me about his experience).
If you're not comfortable talking about sexual fantasy (to the point you're insecure), you guys shouldn't even discuss about it. Or at least you should avoid talking about it. I'm sure you guys have more things to talk about beside sexual fantasy.
*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*
5It is almost every guys fantasy so that is not something to worry about. I would be more worried about the fact that you are the only girl he's slept with. I am not trying to be mean. I am just being honest. There are not many guys out there that have only been with one woman. He will most probably not be the only guy that you ever sleep with either. You guys are young. Just concentrate on enjoying each other one day at a time. Don't worry too much about the future.
6Yes, it's every guys fantasy, sure. If he cheats on you because if this (or cheats, period), i think it's safe to say he's not worth your time anyway.
7I think that most men think/fantasize about this but are smart enough not to tell their girl about it, because most women would never do this. Here is a thought. Maybe you could tell him you have been thinking about it too. Then say, "I am so happy that you are secure enough with your sexuality to allow another guy into our bedroom." That should throw him for a loop! If he says no, I meant with another girl then say "oh... I am sorry but I am not bisexual and it would be very uncomfortable for me to watch you fuc*ing another girl right in front of me. Would you be comfortable with me fuc*ing a guy in front of you?" Guaranteed he will say no and that is the end of that. Good luck.
"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world." Buddha
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