My boyfriend [of 3 years] and I went on vacation 4 states away. We attended a party where he was introduced to a woman [same as me and very pretty] that is in charge of scheduling gigs for bands. He told me about how she could help get his exposed since he plays the guitar. I asked him if they exchanged numbers just incase and he said no but he knew the company she worked for and would just look up the office number if he needed. Later on that night, I looked through his cell phone and found not only her number but her cellphone number as well. Why would he lie to me about getting her number? Since we've gotten back from our vacation, he takes his cell phone everywhere with him - even to the next room or the bathroom. I see what's going on here and I act like it's acceptable, but I don't know how to confront him or don't confront him and go through his phone everynight for the rest of my life??
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1Say "I felt you weren't being honest, so I looked in your phone and saw you have Jenny's numbers. Why did you lie to me about that?" Then sit quietly till he answers. Don't let him turn it around on you for snooping. If he does, say "I understand you're upset I snooped, and we'll talk about that in a minute. First I need to know why you lied to me."
2i completely agree with luisa. just say you had a gut feeling that something wasnt right and needed to confirm it for yourself. if he tries to turn the situation or make excuses then you know something isnt right and you need to seriously reconsider being with this guy if after 3 years he can't even be honest with you.
3Let's see... you are sneaking into his phone, which was the only way you found out that he was lying. Not much honesty is going on here on both your parts. You're both just as guilty. Get it sorted.
4Yikes hon, sorry to hear this. A woman's gut is often right! I agree w/ luisa's strategy. Good luck!
5Trust your instincts. I like Luisa's technique. If you just look him in the eyes and say nothing, you will likely have your answer (unless he is an exceptionally good liar). Obviously you snooped because you knew that he was hiding something. If he does not come clean with you, you need to consider if you want to be with someone that you can't trust. Good luck.
"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world." Buddha
6I really don't like the sound of this. It's been four years so assume you live together? You could also take a look at the bill and how many calls he made to her. And how many times she called him. By now he should have some gigs lined up, huh?
7Highlight the minutes and what the dates were. Do it with a fat pen and then when he goes into the bathroom for the next call to her he can review it easily where you left it on the toilet seat. No need to be upset if he has to use that instead of toilet paper when he's done. I wouldn't take a grain of salt with an argument over your behavior. Have a talk and let him know how you feel. What's at stake here is your relationship and your entire future together.
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