I'm what you might call a late bloomer, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 29. I'm 34 now and feeling like I missed out on a lot of fun, not just the sex, but dating mostly. There are times when I feel like I just want to be married (I think that's natural at my age) but at the same time I have conflicting feelings about this because I feel I haven't dated enough or experienced different people. I average maybe one date a year. I'm single right now. It's hard to meet people because I work in an office full of women and my social circle is not that big and most guys that I meet in my age group lately are either in a relationship or turn out to be depressive types.
My question is this: I recently started taking a science class on Saturdays at the university because I've always really been interested in it. The thing is, my class is almost all university-age guys, aged between 20-22 (I'm guessing.) There are only three other girls. I'm often told I look 25 so I have no problem blending in. There is one guy whom I find particularly good-looking and nice, but I can't help feel like it would be wrong to start showing an interest in him because of the age difference. Also, I'm not sure if he'd really want to date someone of my age who has an established career. We bumped into each other on the street a few days ago and he gave me a big smile. Should I go for it, have fun and make up for lost time, or should I just resign myself to being dateless for god who knows how much longer?
Want to make up for lost time
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You need to stop worrying about the "what-ifs" and just go for it. If you like someone, act like it. If you want to go out with someone, mention that great movie opening Friday you want to see.
1I agree with luisa. You are only wasting more time worrying about "what-ifs" - Go for it if you want to.
2I agree with the ladies. Have fun girl, there are no rules when it comes to dating. I know a lot of men that are in serious relationships with older women. Although I wouldnt expect guys around 20-22 to be wanting to get serious, at that age guys have other things on their mind
But as for age difference I do not think it matters in a relationship as long as two people are compatible in other ways.
3Omg go for it, have fun and make up for lost time. Younger guys are great! Some may not be interested in a serious relationship but others may be. Give them a chance at least you'll get some great sex. Younger guys are so eager to please. Go for it girl!
4If you are interested in him, I say go for it. Why not? Just don't expect that he will be even thinking about marriage. Also, if you want children, he will not be a good option for you as a dad, because he will be too immature. But other than that, if you just want to have some fun, I say why not? Life is short, enjoy it and go into it without expectations. Good luck.
"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world." Buddha
5I'm 35 and never married. I'm single by choice. Why? I don't like dating. I don't like relationships. There are just too many responsibility. Responsibility breeds chaos and stress. Stress will damage your health. Bad health is not good.
So you are old as I am. You might as well give up and enjoy the single life. You don't need a man/woman to have sex. You can buy a dildo or make friends with your hands.
At my apartment complex, 90% of people living in my building are over 30 and single. They don't go out or date. They have friends that come over for barbecues and to watch tv.
You don't need a relationship to be happy. As long as you have good friends to keep you company, than being single is good.
I have lots of old friends( males and females) that come and visit me every weekend. We go golfing and shopping. It's all platonic. Nothing romantic.
If a close friend tries to get romantic, I will end that friendship as quickly as possible. There's no way I will date my friends. That's offensive to me.
6I got married at 31. My husband was 26 then. I had a baby at 36. Then as life takes us down twists and turns we were divorced and I met another man at 39. AT 39. Why doesn't the big zero up there chew on that one for a while? I met a 40 year old man as handsome as the devil looking a bit like Paul Newman and we got married a year later. Just think about that. You think I would have done that believing life was over and reading statistics? Have some fortitude, faith and some determination. No way in hell should you ever give up hopes and dreams and dating and having fun in life. Most people benefit and enjoy relationships and dating. So your 34 and you see a cutie in your classroom. What's wrong with a movie or a date with the guy? So he's a little young but maybe it would be nice for you for a change. So he's like Tom Cruise in Top Gun and you could be his Kelly McGillis... right? You said yourself you felt you may have been missing out on some fun since you waited around so long. Go out and change it then. Carpe Diem. Seize the moment.
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