You're a human being, of course you're sad. Sure it wasn't the best time for a baby, but that doesn't mean that you do not feel the lost. You lost something. You lost the potential for something. Did you expect to be happy? A lot of women think it's odd when they cry because they had an abortion they wanted, but it's not. Under other circumstances, this probably would not have been your choice. It's hard when you're head and you're heart are in two different places. Some people even feel that they are losing their child instead of just the "potential" child. I think you're just in the natural grieving process. So it's okay to be sad, get angry, have feelings of denial. Acceptance will come. Accidents happen. I don't think this was a sign or something that you will never get pregnant again. Since birth control isn't fool proof, so potentially, 1 in 100 times you have sex you will get pregnant. Not to say it happens to everyone, but it does happen. It must be terrible to have that happen. I hope you feel better, and just know that you're not crazy at all for grieving. It's a part of life, and just like everything else, you'll get through it.

I'm sorry that you had to go through this. It's not an easy decision to make and I'm sure it has been difficult for you. I think it's completely normal to have mixed feelings about something as huge as this. I mean, if you had been like "get this parasite out of me" that would have been awful. It's a potential baby - your potential baby - and it's GOOD that you were conflicted about this. It means that you have a heart. Seriously. I mean, people talk about abortion like it's no big deal, and then when people have them they wonder why they're so sad.

It sounds like you made the right decision for you, but keep in mind that just because it was the right decision it doesn't mean it was the EASY decision. There was no easy way out of that, you know?

As with all sadness and pain, this will fade with time. I hope you feel better soon.

Your feelings are normal, from what I've heard. Please get into a support group or maybe even couples counseling.

It's probably also time for you to rethink your relationship. You're an adult, you've been with your boyfriend for three years and still you don't want anything that will connect you to forever. Something tells me you're staying out of habit; not for love.

I had a VERY similar situation a few years ago, and it ended up ruining my relationsip. To this day I still feel pain over my decision, but less for the choice I made than for the resulting breakup. You're definitely not crazy. The best advice I can give you is to be open and honest with your boyfriend over what you're feeling. I know for me I just ended up running away from the problem, and thus from my partner. If I could go back and do it again I would try harder to deal with the pain. I aggree with luisa that couple's counseling might be helpful, though I believe time is the only thing that will really get you past this.

I really think that you should consider some grief counselling. It is normal to feel this way, and it is ok to go through a grieving process. I am sure that you will be able to get pregnant again when the time is right for you. It is very, very unlikely that a legal abortion will affect your future chances of becoming pregnant. Talk to your doctor if you are concerned about this because I am sure she will make you feel better. Please consider counselling, it is ok the way you are feeling. Take care.

"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world." Buddha

you're definitely not crazy. that was a very huuuge decision and definitely not an easy one but you have to remember that you did what was right for you at the moment. the fact that when you get pregnant and have an abortion your hormones are still out of whack also doesn't help. I think you need to talk to your boyfriend and you both need to support eachother right now.

you can't think of this as "it may be the only chance you have to get pregnant" you have to think of it like you were doing the right thing and that you wouldn't be able to provide a child with all the things you would like right now, and next time you will be better prepared and you will do _____ differently.

You know what you could do? Think about when you are ready in two or three years to have one. And you will. Just focus on that and get some counseling for sure.