I have a friend who is going through a really tough time. She is mentally ill and was badly abused by her parents as a child, so staying with them is not something she wants to do. She stayed at my house for several days to get away from her husband. They have a bad marriage and he has recently kicked her out of their house, I think it has to do with her excessive drinking. My fiancee has gotten really irritated with having her around so much and phoning several times a day, but she keeps asking to come stay here. I have had to tell her no, even though it was really hard to do. Now, she has asked me if she can stay at my mother's house, who lives next door to me. How do I deal with this? I know my mom would be annoyed for her to ask, although she is a very compassionate person and might end up agreeing. My mom is very stressed right now in her life too. I want to help my friend because I care about her, but having her around so much or even talking to her so much on the phone is causing me a lot of stress, in addition to multiple stressors I already have in my life. Also, she phones me sometimes in the middle of the night, I am usually awake, but it wakes up my fiancee, who gets up early for work. He gets really mad. I told her not to do it anymore and she apologized. I have tried to set boundaries with her, but she keeps trying to cross them, putting me in a very awkward position of having to restate my boundaries yet again. I have told her to investigate women's shelters, but she seems very unwilling to do so. I honestly just don't know how to deal with her anymore. She seems to be really good at making me feel guilty for trying to even set boundaries with her at all. For instance, she says the friend she is staying with now is really rude to her and she is uncomfortable staying there, and has told me in the past that she is comfortable at my house. Do you have any advice for me? How do you set boundaries with friends? Thanks in advance.