Over the past year, one of my guy friends has dropped a lot of “hints” that he would like for us to get together, but then I won’t hear from him for weeks or months on end. I don’t know what to think of it. For example, I got my hair cut short a few weeks ago and when he saw it he said, “It’s nice to feel the summer breeze on your neck,” which was something I had written to him in an email over a year ago when I last got it cut short. He didn’t know I had gotten it cut until he saw me and he essentially quoted something I said from ages ago, right on the spot. Also, we went to see a horror movie and he made sure I was okay throughout the film (I’m not good with blood) and after the movie he kept gently touching my lower back after we left the theatre as we walked downtown, which I hear is a classic sign that a guy likes you. Last time we went out he said the whole night had been “perfect.” He did tell me he loved me last year and I was really happy, but then I didn’t hear from him for three weeks afterwards! We haven’t talked about it since. I’m not a clingy person, so it’s not as though I’m suffocating him. I’m pretty independent like most women my age (early 30s.) I text him and call him every once in a while, but then I won’t always get a response or a call back. And then sometimes I’ll get a huge text from him out of the blue, asking me what I’m up to and how I’m doing. In some ways I feel like he is trying to get me to chase after him and declare my feelings, but isn’t that what the guy should do? I don’t want to chase him. I gave him a small present last year that he really liked, so he knows that he is special to me, plus I gave him a goodnight kiss last time we saw each other (I initiated it, and he didn’t really kiss me back, he was kind of frozen, but then he hugged me for a really long time. We’d only kissed once before last year.) I don’t want to confront him though, no matter how gently I do so, because I do not want to put him on the spot. He was engaged eight years ago to someone else and she dumped him because she didn’t love him anymore, so I’m thinking he doesn’t want to get hurt again? But then, that was eight years ago, I think he’d be over that by now. I can’t tell what’s going on with him. I honestly can’t figure this out! Is there anything I can do to get him to open up to me?