ok, so for starters when I said girlfriends I meant friends who are girls. Anyways, I seem to have this problem to become really good friends with these girls I like then I seem to get in the just friends stage. I've been told by one of my previous crushes she did like me but wanted to wait till after high school because she really liked me. The problem is though once I have become good friends with these girls I become very jealous of who they are talking to, hanging out with ect. What I am asking for is some help with this problem. Should I tell them how I feel, how should I tell them, should I keep it to myself or maybe get a third party?
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You're making this way harder than it has to be... the solution is simple... if you want to be a friend, just be a friend. If you want to be the boyfriend, ask her on a date. It's not fair to pretend to be someone's friend when you really want a relationship. You're ending up in the "just friends stage" because you're playing off your intentions as just friendly. If you want to see results, don't ask someone else to let your intentions known, start all your relationships out honestly. Ask the girl on a date and get to know her like that, not by masquerading as her friend. Sure, you'll strike out a few times, but that's how it goes.
1I would agree that you are making this harder then it needs to be. If you are romantically interested in a girl, then make it known sooner rather than later. Don't wait until you get stuck in the 'friend zone'. Most girls would not consider dating a good friend, because they don't want to ruin the friendship. You need to practice flirting with girls so that they know that you are romantically interested also. Joking around with the girl in a non threatening way to see their reaction is a good place to start. This way you can judge their initial reaction without risking rejection right away. If the girl flirts back or seems open to your flirting, then you can ask her out on a date. You need to learn how to read a girls body language. Girls that are interested in you will find ways to show you, for example, touching their hair or body a lot, touching you gently on the arm, hitting you in a playful way licking their lips, etc...
Definitely do not get a third party to do it. A girl is impressed by a guy who is honest and upfront. Be prepared that the girls you are already friends with may not want to date you if you have already forged a strong friendship. If you find yourself feeling really jealous a lot of the time, then I think that is a good time to tell someone how you feel. If you are so interested that you don't want to be friends unless they want more, tell them that too. Don't enter into a friendship under false pretenses again. If you are romantically interested in a girl, then tell her upfront fairly soon after you get to know her or ask her out if she seems receptive to your flirting. At least then you will right away how she feels instead of always waiting and wondering. Hope that helps, Good luck.
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